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Summer depression

Elfilis

Bit more of a rant post but I just wanted to voice my feelings of summer. 

I struggle with all the high temperatures, if I open the windows I end up with bugs and insects in my place (can’t even get rid of wasps and so scared of them), I also end up hearing people screaming and shouting, loud car engines and people honking their horns just for the sake of it and it also stinks of smoke which makes me feel unwell! If I have my windows closed I’m slowly being cooked alive but even with the window open there isn’t any breeze, even if a night. I can never sleep or get comfortable either and if I do get to sleep I wake up multiple times in the night. When going out I feel I have to cover up because I’m an eyesore compared to everyone else and people seem to be so rude and arrogant. Plus everyone seems to have nice high end cars and stuff compared to what me and my parents have. In fact I don’t even know how to drive so I don’t have a car. Having work and renovations isn’t helping either and not to mention how rude they have been to me and mistreated my place. Plus I feel we have been ripped off. I also can’t do any exercise due to the heat but I keep thinking what’s the point anyway as I’m not worth it. 

I'm meant to be going on holiday next month but I’ll be honest I’m dreading the airports and flight! I’m also dreading what people will think of me when they see me. I never used to be like this but since my bullying and harassment at the workplace I can’t help but think I’m a poor thrump. He’s been very manipulative this bully and I am triggered all the time but I seem to struggle more in summer which leads to meltdowns and depression! I’m also crying when I see myself in any sort of reflection because of how awful I look. 

Does anyone relate to what I’m saying? 

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  • How are things with your builders?

    Do you own the flat or rent it from a housing association?

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Ugh the “builders” are dragging the work out now. So much for two weeks! Been nearly a month now! Had work started on the 4th August and still not done. Now waiting on the little things to be completed but everything has been ordered with the wrong dimensions or something and now have to wait for them to be made to order! I can’t see them being done before I go on holiday. I own my flat. 

  • in reply to Elfilis

    Builder can be a real nightmare, I've heard so many horror stories from friends, wrong parts being ordered, the wrong size being ordered, extensions just being tacked onto the side of buildings rather than being keyed into the existing building, extensions that are meant to have a roof strong enough to take a roof terrace not being made to take the weight.

    Every time I see a neighbour having work done I go and ask them if they'd recomend the contractor and get a card if they do. What really bugs me is when you're a woman they feel free to ignore you and do what they think you ought to have rather than what you've asked for. We had a shower fitted not long before my Dad died and it was a total mess, after my Dad died my Mum was trying to get someone to come and fix it and she was asked by one plumber if he could speak to her husband and when she said she was a widow, if he could speak to her son. He would not deal with a woman and I've met a few like that, so much so that one of my first questions to new builders is, will you work for a female client? My elderly neighbours have had the same problem, so many of them can't seem to get thier heads around the idea that the female partner has had as much financial input as the male. It's a horrible and frequently cruel situation, espesically in my Mums case with her being a new widow. 

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  • in reply to Elfilis

    Builder can be a real nightmare, I've heard so many horror stories from friends, wrong parts being ordered, the wrong size being ordered, extensions just being tacked onto the side of buildings rather than being keyed into the existing building, extensions that are meant to have a roof strong enough to take a roof terrace not being made to take the weight.

    Every time I see a neighbour having work done I go and ask them if they'd recomend the contractor and get a card if they do. What really bugs me is when you're a woman they feel free to ignore you and do what they think you ought to have rather than what you've asked for. We had a shower fitted not long before my Dad died and it was a total mess, after my Dad died my Mum was trying to get someone to come and fix it and she was asked by one plumber if he could speak to her husband and when she said she was a widow, if he could speak to her son. He would not deal with a woman and I've met a few like that, so much so that one of my first questions to new builders is, will you work for a female client? My elderly neighbours have had the same problem, so many of them can't seem to get thier heads around the idea that the female partner has had as much financial input as the male. It's a horrible and frequently cruel situation, espesically in my Mums case with her being a new widow. 

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