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Seeking some help and advice as someone new to the online discussions.

Laceymay18

Hey I’m new to the online community and just wanted to know if anyone else is struggling with feeling very isolated and left behind by people there own age like your stuck and everyone’s moving on. I’m 18 years old almost 19 and I’ve not experienced half of the stuff the people my age, I’m too scared to even sign up to a job because I’m trying to avoid socialising. It’s really tiring trying to pretend I’m okay being on my own and that I prefer it that way but in reality it’s really lonely and I feel trapped I just want to be able to related to someone and have a friend I don’t feel like I’m masking my self around them 

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  • I am sorry that you are suffering. I would first ask you some brief questions:

    1. What things do you like doing?

    2. Do you have pressure to start working right now? Or perhaps have support either from family members or otherwise, that could give you sometime to think about it without pressure?

    I think it is not uncommon for autistic people to feel lazy. It's not our fault. We see how difficult it is to overcome a world not made equal for all. At the moment, you are likely puzzled by that, and are doing your best to show others that you are trying.

    It does not mean you can't flourish either. It simply means that finding good conditions may take a bit more effort, time, and some local support (besides other internet users; I mean support from people close to you, or professionals you can trust.)

    Asking for advice and thinking about it is a good first step. But you will have to advocate for yourself as well, to know your needs, skills, and opportunities.

    An interesting option could be either part-time jobs, or volunteering, where you can be more relaxed and get a feeling for what things are hard, and refine your thoughts afterwards. Another option could be to try helping a family member, assuming you consider it appropriate (and they do.)

    Those are just some options. This will also require time to evaluate where to apply for, what is it that you can/want to do, and more.

    Cheer up! You are not alone.

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  • I am sorry that you are suffering. I would first ask you some brief questions:

    1. What things do you like doing?

    2. Do you have pressure to start working right now? Or perhaps have support either from family members or otherwise, that could give you sometime to think about it without pressure?

    I think it is not uncommon for autistic people to feel lazy. It's not our fault. We see how difficult it is to overcome a world not made equal for all. At the moment, you are likely puzzled by that, and are doing your best to show others that you are trying.

    It does not mean you can't flourish either. It simply means that finding good conditions may take a bit more effort, time, and some local support (besides other internet users; I mean support from people close to you, or professionals you can trust.)

    Asking for advice and thinking about it is a good first step. But you will have to advocate for yourself as well, to know your needs, skills, and opportunities.

    An interesting option could be either part-time jobs, or volunteering, where you can be more relaxed and get a feeling for what things are hard, and refine your thoughts afterwards. Another option could be to try helping a family member, assuming you consider it appropriate (and they do.)

    Those are just some options. This will also require time to evaluate where to apply for, what is it that you can/want to do, and more.

    Cheer up! You are not alone.

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    To be honest fishing and playing football is one of the man things I like to do but yet have lack of energy and confidence to get up recently. And for the second question, I haven’t got much pressure from my whole family to get a job but my dad is very pushy and telling me I have to provide for myself my mum on the other hand is very supportive and helps me out and I do get income and do my best but it always don’t feel enough all the time. I really do appreciate this reply and I will take your advice in look into how I a can get over this curve, thank you!