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Seeking some help and advice as someone new to the online discussions.

Laceymay18

Hey I’m new to the online community and just wanted to know if anyone else is struggling with feeling very isolated and left behind by people there own age like your stuck and everyone’s moving on. I’m 18 years old almost 19 and I’ve not experienced half of the stuff the people my age, I’m too scared to even sign up to a job because I’m trying to avoid socialising. It’s really tiring trying to pretend I’m okay being on my own and that I prefer it that way but in reality it’s really lonely and I feel trapped I just want to be able to related to someone and have a friend I don’t feel like I’m masking my self around them 

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  • Laceymay18 said:
    I’m too scared to even sign up to a job because I’m trying to avoid socialising

    Until you try you don't know how well you will cope.

    You could try looking for jobs which have little social contact instead. Think gardener, forestry worker, truck driver etc.

    Laceymay18 said:
    I’ve not experienced half of the stuff the people my age

    Think of this as a reason to catch up, not a negative but a motivator. Learn to drive, learn how to socialise, learn to manage your anxiety so you can do these things more safely, try some charity work, maybe get a part time job etc.

    All these other people started out with no experience so you can think of yourself as being in the same state they were. They are not superhumans.

    Do you have some sort of support system for working on your skills?

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  • Laceymay18 said:
    I’m too scared to even sign up to a job because I’m trying to avoid socialising

    Until you try you don't know how well you will cope.

    You could try looking for jobs which have little social contact instead. Think gardener, forestry worker, truck driver etc.

    Laceymay18 said:
    I’ve not experienced half of the stuff the people my age

    Think of this as a reason to catch up, not a negative but a motivator. Learn to drive, learn how to socialise, learn to manage your anxiety so you can do these things more safely, try some charity work, maybe get a part time job etc.

    All these other people started out with no experience so you can think of yourself as being in the same state they were. They are not superhumans.

    Do you have some sort of support system for working on your skills?

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  • in reply to Iain

    I use to have cahms and then had therapy but now I’m wanting and emailing places to get more support I need even trying find a job that may best suit me or opportunities to get more experience feeling less anxious, like trying new activities or even trying to give a helping hand but I’m always stuck overthinking and pushing things off, so I really do think talking to a specialist again would most definitely help for guidance. I also really appreciate the reply. Thank you!