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Not close to my 2 neurotypical sisters

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I feel as if they hold a grudge towards me for being autistic. They are both older than me, but we do not text regularly or update each other on our lives. I would have liked to hear from them more often but they don't show any effort.

I have always wanted a brother for this reason, and recently my best friend (who was a boy) left because I was too much to handle. He was like my brother. I have been very isolated so I joined this community to make online friends with the same issues that I have. 

Sometimes I am not very nice to people, mostly because I'm deeply unhappy with things and feel I have a lack of support in my life. I would like more support and I have reached out before to Samaritans and Shout text service. But there's only so much you can do sometimes when you're all on your own. I understand that's just the way the world is now and everybody has to fend for themselves these days but I'm finding it so difficult to find work that will suit my needs. I would prefer hybrid or remote work but it just seems like I can't find anything. Travelling to and from work would be a stress in itself so it holds me back.

Any advice would be appreciated from anyone who has faced similar issues with their neurotypical friends/family members.

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  • Hello.

    Do you only contact people when you want or need something? To remain in contact with people and get them to also contact you, you need to talk to them when you don't need anything too.

    Sometimes we may not want to trouble people or be a burden so we put off contacting them.

    If contact always comes with requests it puts people off. My sister does this to my parents and they don't look forward to he calls 

    Why do you think you are not very nice to people. Is it really true? If yes, then since you are aware of it, maybe you could do something, or want people do they know you don't mean it and say sorry afterwards.

    Can you make it up with your friend? 

    Why do you think you are too much to handle? Is there something you need counselling or therapy for?

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  • Hello.

    Do you only contact people when you want or need something? To remain in contact with people and get them to also contact you, you need to talk to them when you don't need anything too.

    Sometimes we may not want to trouble people or be a burden so we put off contacting them.

    If contact always comes with requests it puts people off. My sister does this to my parents and they don't look forward to he calls 

    Why do you think you are not very nice to people. Is it really true? If yes, then since you are aware of it, maybe you could do something, or want people do they know you don't mean it and say sorry afterwards.

    Can you make it up with your friend? 

    Why do you think you are too much to handle? Is there something you need counselling or therapy for?

Children
  • in reply to Stuart333

    I guess maybe they are just busy with their lives and because I'm the youngest they just shove me to the side kind of thing. 

    I tried to make it up with my friend but he blocked me because he said I was too much. I tried calling him but it went to voicemail.

    I'm not nice to people because I'm unhappy and also they are not nice to me so I just mirror their attitude. In my town everyone treats me like Jesus pinned to the cross throwing stones and crap at me because I dress differently and do what I want. They don't literally throw stones ahaha.

    I'd like to be nice to people but it's so hard when all my life people have been horrible to me. I need to apologise to both of my sisters but I don't feel like doing it, I don't know why. I probably do need counselling or therapy but I can't open up. Being sociable and nice to people takes vulnerability that I can't stand.