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Risk aversion

aurelis

Life is about taking risks and seizing opportunities. I find myself feel as if I’m avoiding taking risks all the time, but still impulsive enough to put myself in situations that don’t suit me. It’s a weird contradiction.

There’s my thoughts and opinions, which I feel as if have lost their sharpness, and it feels more of a situation of code switching to the environment. I hide opinions I feel will be a burden to others and try to comfort everyone’s needs, and the perception that I haven’t suited everyone’s needs in the past keep me in a state of self-hate. 

Good thing is that I’m slowly starting to face these things. It’s so difficult, and it’s hard to convey to people what I want to say, rather than the polished version of events. I guess we keep on moving.

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  • Take risks that have reward dont but at the same time take time to think it through impulses can oft mean that you rush things even if it is a good thing to do you may do it bad through impulse

    manisfest things you want through self belief “I can do this thing I want to do I have the abulties and skills” snd once yoir believe you can do it the path opens up 

    snd most importantly keep showing up this is my favourite phrase becuase it’s so true just keep showing up for your self 

  • in reply to 190E(Taylor’s version)

    I don't get any reward feelings from doing something out of my comfort zone, I rarely if ever feel any sense of achievement either. I do have a feeling of getting away with something, like a disaster has been averted because nobody was looking. 

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  • in reply to Iain

    No Iain, its not that at all, I didn't prevent a disaster through my own actions or lack of them. My lack of reward feelings might be because I was never encouraged to do things and rarely praised for the things I did do, I was sort of raised in a bit of a vacumn that way. I was certainly punnished for things I did wrong or just couldn't do, but also things just tend to happen to me, like the seat straps in a fairground ride coming undone and nearly being flung out of the thing, or doing my most successful ski, backwards with no control whatsoever, then there was falling down a rabbit hole whilst thinking about Lewis Carrol.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    I do have a feeling of getting away with something, like a disaster has been averted because nobody was looking. 

    So you prevented a disaster through your own actions - sounds like a situation to give yourself a pat on the back and be proud.

    I guess it may also be rooted in whether or not you have low self esteem too.