Feeling so embarrassed

This is more of a rant post and could possibly be triggering

Ugh, what an awful day today! Just wanted to have a chat with my mum over the phone due to an awful night sleep and summer distressing me, well I ended up having a real meltdown and then mum hung up on me leading me to really get upset and cry really loud like I was having a temper tantrum and forgot all the windows were open. Next thing people are knocking on the door seeing what’s happening and turns out to be two guys from like a crisis ambulance or something. So I had to explain everything to them and then spoke with a very nice and caring lady on the crisis line. Everyone was very supportive there. But I feel so embarrassed now because everyone in the block of flats has heard me and now I’m the gossip of the block. I’m staying at my nans as she’s not here but I just want to be back at mine now, not at mine due to work but tempting to put my mattress in the living room. Mum blocked me and probably even got everyone in the family to block me not that I’m close with them but it’s like they want shut of me. I just feel such in embarrassed idiot now. 

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  • Evening  sleep on it, things are always better after a good nights sleep. Take some deep breaths and remind yourself that you are ok and that this will pass. Hypersensitivity regarding how others may see you is a right pain in the **** but that too shall pass. One thing I remember being told was to imagine myself in a years time, how would I feel then, it’s highly unlikely I’d still have such high levels of anxiety of a particular scenario. 

  • Evening! Thanks for replying to me! Think I will need a good sleep! Just so hard in this heat haha but sometimes even after sleep my mum won’t make up or forgive me and now I’m worried she’s finally going to cut me out her life. She’s threatened it before but this seems more real than ever and it was her who had upset me. Maybe I’ll be better in a year or so but I’m just so hurt because she was once my best friend who turned against me. 

  • Fingers crossed you can both work it out, emotions run high sometimes and people just need to chill for a bit and all is well again. It’s always harder to think clearly when you are upset. Sleep is a great healer, it’ll do you good.

  • I tend to play more gentle games or games on easier modes when it’s later or when I’ve woken and need to sleep too. I tend to do more mobile apps and if they fail I go to my switch and play like yoshi crafted world or something along those lines. If I play kart I have to set the modes to easy lol

  • I’m in my 20s now. I live alone in my place but it’s getting done up so I have been staying at my nans but now thanks to my mum and nan having a go at me I’m now having to sleep in mine while there are loads of work tools etc. plus all my gaming stuff and plush toys are at nans. I mean I could go back and get them but there’s a lot to bring and it’s late now and plus the guilt. I’m meant to be going away with my dad next month but I won’t at all be surprised if that gets cancelled. 

  • Hmmm, playing games, only simple ones like card games or other free Microsoft ones, makes me go to sleep sometimes.

    I feel a kind of extreme tiredness come on then i sort of pass out in the middle of a game. Can then be out for a few mins to two hours.

    I am not sure if it distracts me and the tiredness takes over as I don't sleep well, or if it is dissociation, or something else.

    The psychologist was interested in my assessment. 

    Anyway, games can be relaxing.

  • How old are you? In my 20s I had issues with my parents. I nearly cut them off.

    It may get better if you have a break. Like for 3-6 months.

    Since I've been diagnosed a few months ago I am struggling again with communication again.

    I am not sure it is good to be too close. You need to make your own life then just give them a simple summary once every few weeks.

  • Omg I’m not the only one who gets it! Thank you! Screens can regulate I completely agree. I mean don’t get me wrong I can understand why people say not to use them too much especially at bedtime. But the thing is that I can just adjust the screens to the dimmest setting and if possible use the blue light blocker mode. I woke up early hours of morning recently and couldn’t get to sleep as my mind was just racing, so I just put my switch on and play that which then can actually tire me despite looking at a screen haha! Also I think I said this recently but listening to upbeat music (admittedly gaming) can also help me! 

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  • Omg I’m not the only one who gets it! Thank you! Screens can regulate I completely agree. I mean don’t get me wrong I can understand why people say not to use them too much especially at bedtime. But the thing is that I can just adjust the screens to the dimmest setting and if possible use the blue light blocker mode. I woke up early hours of morning recently and couldn’t get to sleep as my mind was just racing, so I just put my switch on and play that which then can actually tire me despite looking at a screen haha! Also I think I said this recently but listening to upbeat music (admittedly gaming) can also help me! 

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  • I tend to play more gentle games or games on easier modes when it’s later or when I’ve woken and need to sleep too. I tend to do more mobile apps and if they fail I go to my switch and play like yoshi crafted world or something along those lines. If I play kart I have to set the modes to easy lol

  • Hmmm, playing games, only simple ones like card games or other free Microsoft ones, makes me go to sleep sometimes.

    I feel a kind of extreme tiredness come on then i sort of pass out in the middle of a game. Can then be out for a few mins to two hours.

    I am not sure if it distracts me and the tiredness takes over as I don't sleep well, or if it is dissociation, or something else.

    The psychologist was interested in my assessment. 

    Anyway, games can be relaxing.