Why Did Number Leave This Place?

I'll be radical and say I find this sort of thread more problematic than threads about any topic. A discussion of rules or principles is fine. I like rules. I''m not keen on conflict, but attacks on the person and not the idea should be against the rules and subject the moderation anyway.

But dis-harmony and people threatening to leave creates a poor tone. Perhaps I am overly sensitive to it, or I misread the situation.

It is a trait to pick up on emotions. Perhaps it is emotional contagion, hyper empathy, or problems with emotional regulation, but it causes more unease and a desire to leave too.

Problems with social interaction and communication after all are two of the key requirements in the autism definition.

I agree with all you say...and don't find it radical in anyway....and I wholly agree that this sort of thread IS DEFO more problematic than any other type of thread.  I mean - where the hell does one "hope" to go with this?!

Hyper empathy is a problem I share with you Stuart333.....and it is PRECISELY because of this, that I have VERY reluctantly raised this thread here.

My thinking (and motivation for entering this VERY uncomfortable territory for me, and people you like and me)...is this;

I can readily imagine needing to DESPERATELY talk about pornography with my peers and kin-folk, if that were to be the "thing" that was causing me distress.....or frankly, if it was just a subject I was interested in exploring with them.  If that was the case, then I would ensure (like they did) that the topic was clearly displayed, so everyone knew NOT to visit if it was likely to upset them.....and then I would hope to be able just to chat away, with anyone who felt they wanted to contribute or join in.

However, if - all of a sudden - I found my queries or interests deemed "unworthy for safe and further discussion" then I would feel undermined, potentially feel misplaced shame and potentially be tempted to leave.

If someone adheres by the rules here, acts responsibly, and raises a legitimate and safe discussion then that should SURELY be allowed to play-out?

Whilst you (I presume) have hyper empathy for the herd + the offended party (who kindly raised their hand cogently below)....I have hyper empathy for the people who chose to start and join the discussion that has [by their OWN rules, standards and admission] been summarily terminated by NAS......and I think that is both unfair, and damaging.

One thing that cause ME autistic distress is UNFAIRNESS.  I see that it has been creeping in to this place in a pervasive and damaging way.  I KNOW that people are leaving because of that Zeitgeist ...... and I am only trying to bring some reasoned debate and observation to the table.

I am sorry if this is not clear, or you cannot understand my reasoning as above.

Rest assured, I have no umbridge towards you in any event.....but I trust you can at least understand the logic of the position I hold.

I agree with all you say...and don't find it radical in anyway....and I wholly agree that this sort of thread IS DEFO more problematic than any other type of thread.  I mean - where the hell does one "hope" to go with this?!

Hyper empathy is a problem I share with you Stuart333.....and it is PRECISELY because of this, that I have VERY reluctantly raised this thread here.

My thinking (and motivation for entering this VERY uncomfortable territory for me, and people you like and me)...is this;

I can readily imagine needing to DESPERATELY talk about pornography with my peers and kin-folk, if that were to be the "thing" that was causing me distress.....or frankly, if it was just a subject I was interested in exploring with them.  If that was the case, then I would ensure (like they did) that the topic was clearly displayed, so everyone knew NOT to visit if it was likely to upset them.....and then I would hope to be able just to chat away, with anyone who felt they wanted to contribute or join in.

However, if - all of a sudden - I found my queries or interests deemed "unworthy for safe and further discussion" then I would feel undermined, potentially feel misplaced shame and potentially be tempted to leave.

If someone adheres by the rules here, acts responsibly, and raises a legitimate and safe discussion then that should SURELY be allowed to play-out?

Whilst you (I presume) have hyper empathy for the herd + the offended party (who kindly raised their hand cogently below)....I have hyper empathy for the people who chose to start and join the discussion that has [by their OWN rules, standards and admission] been summarily terminated by NAS......and I think that is both unfair, and damaging.

One thing that cause ME autistic distress is UNFAIRNESS.  I see that it has been creeping in to this place in a pervasive and damaging way.  I KNOW that people are leaving because of that Zeitgeist ...... and I am only trying to bring some reasoned debate and observation to the table.

I am sorry if this is not clear, or you cannot understand my reasoning as above.

Rest assured, I have no umbridge towards you in any event.....but I trust you can at least understand the logic of the position I hold.

Yes....I agree that there are many different reasonable ways to entitle a thread.  I those to actually raise one on these matters, and chose to entitle it as above.  Your points on the merits (or otherwise) of that title are wholly reasonable - as I hope you can agree - was my choice to use the one it has.

I also agree that various peoples interpretation of how a "principled stand" is best made, will vary - but this thread is not "that".......it is an invitation for discussion......so I thank you for your participation and making your wholly valid and fair observations.

I appreciate your position. It is fine to question whether a thread should be locked and you're entitled to your opinion, of course. It also seemed strange to me to shut down a discussion. I was wondering whether to say something and what was to be gained.

But why not just start a thread saying "Should threads that break no rules be locked".

Perhaps that would turn into a discussion about how to manage tricky content. 

There is no need to threaten to quit. It does not create a welcoming environment. People see emotional conflict.

Your message and voice can be equally effective, indeed likely more, without the drama. As a communication style, and this is not a criticism,  it's just for info, I have done the same, it doesn't work well. A principled stand be made in better ways.