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The divorce experience

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Hi All,

I had a good response to my last post so thought I'd try another about something I'd love to hear from others about.

I have recently finalised a divorce after a 15 year relationship, I had been with this person most of my adult life and am approaching my 40's now. 

There's lots I would like to know about others experience but most importantly for me is to see how others with Autism have experienced divorce and if you felt you could move on, what eventually helped give your life meaning again?

For me, I split with my partner 8 months ago. We were very kind to one another through the process and acted with decency so the process was not as bad as it could be. However, now its been 2 months since the divorce finalised, I'm living alone and while I'm coping I'm just so very sad and lonely. I loved my partner very deeply and trusted them completely. As an Autistic person this didn't happen easily and I just feel like my life peaked and now I just exist. 

I suppose I'm looking for motivation, some reason for optimism and to see if anyone has tips on trying again when the life you knew has come to an end.

Thanks for any responses, this is a tricky one so no worries if people would rather not comment!

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  • I used to go out just so as I could come home to an empty house and revel in it, there was no mess and everything was where I'd left it, it felt so blissful. There were some very lonely times too especially at weekends and bank holidays when all of my friends were doing thngs with partners and family, I often felt like I'd been put back in the toy box and wouldn't be taken out again until monday.

    But I also knew that even had I still been married I would still be feeling alone as my ex husbands idea of fun was a new computer game. So I started walking, I'd just take myself off for walks. Eventually I made different friends and got into another relationship, which was great until that when wrong too, then I decided I was going to go to university. I got a lot of kickback from that, endless lectures about money, wasting my life blah blah blah, that was far harder to deal with than the whole application process. Uni was great one of the best things I've ever done and I'd do it again in a heartbeat. 

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Thank you for this, I'm glad you ignored them and went back to Uni. I find people telling you you've wasted your money are usually just judging your decisions anyway and that's not their right.

    I suppose independence is great but enforced independence that I've been given is a bitter thing I have to work out. 

    Thanks again

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Thank you for this, I'm glad you ignored them and went back to Uni. I find people telling you you've wasted your money are usually just judging your decisions anyway and that's not their right.

    I suppose independence is great but enforced independence that I've been given is a bitter thing I have to work out. 

    Thanks again

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