Hello, I'm trying to better understand a situation that I have recently encountered with a man I'm trying to date who is late 30s with autism and dyspraxia. I'm female and in my thirties too.
We've been seeing each other for a few months speaking daily, often long text or phone conversations, kissed etc and have expressed well that we like each other. For the first time recently I came to his place and we connected intimately, all was fine. After I left he didn't contact me for a few days and when I queried it, he mentioned that he thought I would message him and was waiting for that. After that there was more silence in which he said that he was taking some time out as he had been very stressed with work and not overly happy recently as a result of the stress, heading for a deep low. After that more silence, in which I messaged again with no response. I felt honestly like I have been ghosted and just said I wouldn't bother him again and that I wished him well - to me this was saying goodbye but I appreciate that it wasn't direct. I was very hurt by this behaviour and didn't really understand. Several days later, I received a subsequent call (which I missed) and messages just saying thank you for being kind, that I could probably see why he was single as he struggled with people coming into his personal space and emotions regarding work, deep lows, stress etc. I responded just saying I was surprised to hear from him and didn't understand the situation but since then silence. I'm really not sure what has happened and why, I oddly feel like this was triggered by me coming to his house and presume that this has now ended things between us.
I have often found his behaviour difficult to understand. Need to recharge/be alone (not speak), making plans to see me but not following up, he has an insanely stressful job that requires a vast amount of hours. But equally has always said that he wanted to focus on really liking me over anything physical, spoken to family and friends about me, said that he hoped to have a family etc.
I can't figure out whether this ending is the usual dating rubbish of ghosting or whether I have missed something?
Any ideas please?
