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Hello everyone,

I’ve recently been diagnosed with ADHD and autism at 24 years old and I’m struggling a lot to do the things I was able to before. I have not been able to leave my house in a month and have panic attacks at the though of it. I am worried because I restart my second year of university in a month after dropping out last year. I struggled to be social at uni and make friends and I became very lonely and isolated and it’s only gotten worse since leaving. The things I loved to do no longer interest me and I am  struggling to get a job because it’s so terrifying to me and I can no longer afford my rent. I just feel so lost and alone and any advice would be helpful. I’m currently on the waiting list for professional help but they say I can get it in 6 weeks.

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  • If you could do things before you could do them now. It does not mean it is easy. Nothing is going to make it easy, except repetition.

    Could you be putting all the issues in one pile and thinking it looks overwhelming? Don't try to solve everything in one go.

    But do make an effort to do at least one thing every day, or one thing in the morning and one the the afternoon. Celebrate success and move on.

    Pick some smaller targets. Leave the house, maybe just to go to the end of the road and back. You're going to have to do this whatever happens. Build it up, visiting different shops etc. so it is more manageable. Get someone to go with you.

    You need to either think hard about what is stopping you and question it and break the things down, or if this makes things worse, just go with impulses and do things without thinking too much.

    If the anxiety is really unmanageable then maybe your GP can help. But I think it is mostly driven by irrational fear, which you can overcome. Don't think of the worst that will happen, think of the best. If something does not go perfectly is does not matter. Take the positive from things. Learn to embrace good enough.

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  • If you could do things before you could do them now. It does not mean it is easy. Nothing is going to make it easy, except repetition.

    Could you be putting all the issues in one pile and thinking it looks overwhelming? Don't try to solve everything in one go.

    But do make an effort to do at least one thing every day, or one thing in the morning and one the the afternoon. Celebrate success and move on.

    Pick some smaller targets. Leave the house, maybe just to go to the end of the road and back. You're going to have to do this whatever happens. Build it up, visiting different shops etc. so it is more manageable. Get someone to go with you.

    You need to either think hard about what is stopping you and question it and break the things down, or if this makes things worse, just go with impulses and do things without thinking too much.

    If the anxiety is really unmanageable then maybe your GP can help. But I think it is mostly driven by irrational fear, which you can overcome. Don't think of the worst that will happen, think of the best. If something does not go perfectly is does not matter. Take the positive from things. Learn to embrace good enough.

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