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Feeling Guilt for autistic accommodations.

Roy

Just something that’s rattling around in my head at the moment. Does anyone else feel they are saying sorry all the time for wanting autistic needs to be taken seriously, if not actually saying sorry, feeling guilt when needing something to be altered slightly?

Common examples are  when something is supposed to finish at a certain time and then continues, food alterations or needing time alone.

It’s something I’m aware of all the time, a guilt and balancing act of “am I making this all about me and autism, am I being too needy, do others think I’m making it all about me?”

I find I’m often saying nothing and trying to battle on, this l then leads to a worse situation. It can lead to comments like, “you’ve gone quiet.”

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  • I have difficulties differentiating between the virtues of making allowances for bad time keeping and not being a pushover.

    I would struggle particularly when an event runs on past the finish time. There are times in the past when a person or persons in my company would say I was making a big deal over the time running on, yet at other times, they would have complained about the timing to management. I can’t for the life of me understand the difference between some of the situations.

    I learned to quietly exit the situation if I could, or else suffer in silence. Nowadays, I can suit myself without it affecting others, but I still can’t understand when bad time keeping is acceptable and when it isn’t.

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  • I have difficulties differentiating between the virtues of making allowances for bad time keeping and not being a pushover.

    I would struggle particularly when an event runs on past the finish time. There are times in the past when a person or persons in my company would say I was making a big deal over the time running on, yet at other times, they would have complained about the timing to management. I can’t for the life of me understand the difference between some of the situations.

    I learned to quietly exit the situation if I could, or else suffer in silence. Nowadays, I can suit myself without it affecting others, but I still can’t understand when bad time keeping is acceptable and when it isn’t.

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