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Feeling Guilt for autistic accommodations.

Roy

Just something that’s rattling around in my head at the moment. Does anyone else feel they are saying sorry all the time for wanting autistic needs to be taken seriously, if not actually saying sorry, feeling guilt when needing something to be altered slightly?

Common examples are  when something is supposed to finish at a certain time and then continues, food alterations or needing time alone.

It’s something I’m aware of all the time, a guilt and balancing act of “am I making this all about me and autism, am I being too needy, do others think I’m making it all about me?”

I find I’m often saying nothing and trying to battle on, this l then leads to a worse situation. It can lead to comments like, “you’ve gone quiet.”

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  • I totally get how you feel. I am very similar to what you describe. I wonder if it has something to do with being a 'lateling' as we have probably spent the vast majority of our lives trying to mask our true selves and ignoring our needs just to fit in.

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    Mr T said:
    I wonder if it has something to do with being a 'lateling' as we have probably spent the vast majority of our lives trying to mask our true selves and ignoring our needs just to fit in.

    Well said, to suddenly ask for the things we need in order to experience life in a more comfortable way is ironically uncomfortable. Personally I don’t bring up my diagnosis much to others because I don’t want to seem like I want special treatment or others to view me differently.

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  • in reply to Mr T
    Mr T said:
    I wonder if it has something to do with being a 'lateling' as we have probably spent the vast majority of our lives trying to mask our true selves and ignoring our needs just to fit in.

    Well said, to suddenly ask for the things we need in order to experience life in a more comfortable way is ironically uncomfortable. Personally I don’t bring up my diagnosis much to others because I don’t want to seem like I want special treatment or others to view me differently.

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