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Feeling Guilt for autistic accommodations.

Roy

Just something that’s rattling around in my head at the moment. Does anyone else feel they are saying sorry all the time for wanting autistic needs to be taken seriously, if not actually saying sorry, feeling guilt when needing something to be altered slightly?

Common examples are  when something is supposed to finish at a certain time and then continues, food alterations or needing time alone.

It’s something I’m aware of all the time, a guilt and balancing act of “am I making this all about me and autism, am I being too needy, do others think I’m making it all about me?”

I find I’m often saying nothing and trying to battle on, this l then leads to a worse situation. It can lead to comments like, “you’ve gone quiet.”

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  • I get it about food as I'm allergic to so much, people get impatient with me and then I feel that I'm not allowed not to like something. Apart from the dificulty in finding a restaurant where I can actually get something I can eat, others make it all so difficult that I routinely say thanks be no thanks to any invitations out to eat. It really bugs me when people don't want to go somewhere that I can't go, even though I'm happy for them to go and leave me out, it soon ends up with me feeling like I'm being deliberately awkward and attention seeking. I think everyone just ends up feeling bad, it's one of the reasons I avoid socialising.

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  • I get it about food as I'm allergic to so much, people get impatient with me and then I feel that I'm not allowed not to like something. Apart from the dificulty in finding a restaurant where I can actually get something I can eat, others make it all so difficult that I routinely say thanks be no thanks to any invitations out to eat. It really bugs me when people don't want to go somewhere that I can't go, even though I'm happy for them to go and leave me out, it soon ends up with me feeling like I'm being deliberately awkward and attention seeking. I think everyone just ends up feeling bad, it's one of the reasons I avoid socialising.

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