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Avoidant personality disorder VS Autism

Autismman

Someone recently posted a link on another discussion regarding avoidant personality disorder and this got me thinking about myself and my own diagnosis of autism. I am on a quest for clarity and information to help benefit my own situation so my question is how many of you diagnosed with autism can also relate to the symptoms of this particular personality disorder? And if not why so? 


Avoidant personality disorder symptoms 

1.  Avoids occupational activities that involve significant interpersonal contact because of fears of criticism, disapproval, or rejection.

2.  Is unwilling to get involved with people unless certain of being liked.

3.  Shows restraint within intimate relationships because of the fear of being shamed or ridiculed.

4.  Is preoccupied with being criticized or rejected in social situations.

5.  Is inhibited in new interpersonal situations because of feelings of inadequacy.

6.  Views self as socially inept, personally unappealing, or inferior to others.

7.  Is unusually reluctant to take personal risks or to engage in any new activities because they may prove embarrassing

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  • I'm willing to take part in social situation if I know, that I won't be bullied there. If someone likes me there or not, does not bother me much or even at all. Small talk is overwhelming,  I can talk only to one person at time, otherwise I have difficulty understanding,  what all these people talk about if there are many sounds at once, I have difficulty reading the non verbal communication, I'm usually slower to process information and it gives me a sensation of my brain shaking.  Just my POV, I'm not diagnosed with autism, I have never heard of avoidant personality disorder. What I relate to from these symptoms is feeling of inferiority.

    Recently I joined a social group and I'm happy to be able to spend some time with people and do something together.  They encourage me to take part in conversation and sometimes I do, but I don't stay long on track. I just say something if I have anything to say and if there is a pause for me to speak. Also the fact that there are more people with disabilities and issues with communication, makes me feel safer. They typically don't bully the way, that NTs do.

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth
    Alien0n3arth said:
    Recently I joined a social group and I'm happy to be able to spend some time with people and do something together.  They encourage me to take part in conversation and sometimes I do

    That’s really great and I mean that, putting yourself out there isn’t easy to say the least. I haven’t much interest in involving myself in groups of people although maybe it would be different if I knew perhaps that they were ND also. I really struggle to get along with your everyday John smith, nothing wrong with those people or anyone named that. 

  • in reply to Autismman

    There are many recognised personality disorders with similar symptoms,  it's easy to confuse them. I think that these symptoms of APD may also stem from trauma. Or maybe this disorder itself comes from trauma... there is also a schizoid personality disorder,  also similar to autism and I recognised some of these traits in me, for example fear of closer relationship with someone, because this person could interfere and change me and my routine. But it's also listed, that SPDs don't feel pleasure or do anything for pleasure, but its not the case for me. I can have deep feelings from seeing droplets of water on flower flakes or leaves shaking in the wind, or from listening to music that I like. It gives me kind if goosebumps and I feel this music with my whole body, very intense. And I enjoy doing my favourite things. 

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  • in reply to Autismman

    There are many recognised personality disorders with similar symptoms,  it's easy to confuse them. I think that these symptoms of APD may also stem from trauma. Or maybe this disorder itself comes from trauma... there is also a schizoid personality disorder,  also similar to autism and I recognised some of these traits in me, for example fear of closer relationship with someone, because this person could interfere and change me and my routine. But it's also listed, that SPDs don't feel pleasure or do anything for pleasure, but its not the case for me. I can have deep feelings from seeing droplets of water on flower flakes or leaves shaking in the wind, or from listening to music that I like. It gives me kind if goosebumps and I feel this music with my whole body, very intense. And I enjoy doing my favourite things. 

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