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Following diagnosis did you become more emotional?

Stuart333

Just wondering. Everyone's circumstances are different and the impact depends on past history.

I had my emotions battened down pretty tight. I went to a psychologist to find out why. It led to getting assessed and finding other things. The emotions were squashed as a way to cope, due to trauma and and due to childhood. You learn to mask and bulldoze  through things and ignore the stress.

I now am trying to feel more, but it mostly seems to involve trying to avoid crying. I think this is due to the other issues, not the autism itself. I think I am just being kinder to myself so have permission to notice them.

I think the diagnosis is more related to the feeling of disconnection, i.e. feeling a bit lost, which passed quite quickly. I think the rest is all the baggage.

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  • Must admit knowing I have autism has become more upsetting for me knowing I’m different and I won’t recover from my other issues. Unable to forgive and do what I like etc because of past traumas and what people have said. Like why am I always a target and why is everything I do always wrong?? Sorry for the rant 

  • in reply to Elfilis

    Remember autism is just a way of thinking, plus some social and emotional issues. You can adapt to the social issues and learn some emotional stuff.

    The trauma stuff is treatable. This is where I went wrong. You can make progress. Don't give up for years like I did. Times are different now. 

    Maybe you are better, not just different. 

    In Japan they have the saying the nail that sticks up gets hammered down. Be happy to stand up.

    Find your niche.

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  • in reply to Elfilis

    Remember autism is just a way of thinking, plus some social and emotional issues. You can adapt to the social issues and learn some emotional stuff.

    The trauma stuff is treatable. This is where I went wrong. You can make progress. Don't give up for years like I did. Times are different now. 

    Maybe you are better, not just different. 

    In Japan they have the saying the nail that sticks up gets hammered down. Be happy to stand up.

    Find your niche.

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  • in reply to Stuart333
    Stuart333 said:

    I think this too because I don't do or watch some of the stuff other people do. But besides TV programs and some films I can have an interesting conversation about almost anything with people. More than others can, from years off looking up anything I don't understand. 

    I'm the same, but when I start talking about something interesting (which it genuinely is to me), I have to start scanning the room to look for eyes that are glazing over. A lot of people just aren't into "interesting", but sometimes I find that out too late.

    Edit: "sometimes"? Ha! Read: "most of the time".

  • in reply to Stuart333

    I understand that. I just need to find those like minded people but trust my that’s hard to come by, especially with my age group Worried see all gen z are just into social media, reality shows etc and I’m like the complete opposite of that. Plus not many people seem to want to talk these days as you say. Maybe limbic can help I don’t know haha

  • in reply to Elfilis
    Elfilis said:
    Wow I’m so boring haha

    Don't think this, it's a trap.

    I think this too because I don't do or watch some of the stuff other people do. But besides TV programs and some films I can have an interesting conversation about almost anything with people. More than others can, from years off looking up anything I don't understand. 

    I also make interesting observations that other people miss.

    There will be things you do or know that are interesting to other people. You just need the confidence to let it out.

    Like I said, different, not boring. 

    The problem is finding opportunities to talk.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Aww well first of all Happy Birthday! You deserve to treat yourself every now and then but as you say be careful with alcohol. 

    I must admit I don’t drink. I have tried it but I just couldn’t get into it, I kept getting thirsty so I stick with my soft drinks. Wow I’m so boring haha

  • in reply to Elfilis

    I think I have (c)PTSD so you have my sympathies.

    The bad bit is wine helps while you drink it, but later makes you less stable. I've had a bottle and a half as it's my birthday. I've been off wine all year.

    Been out for a meal on my own. Local place where I know the people.

    Find some good thoughts/memories and try to think them. Its not easy though.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Thank you for those kind words. Been diagnosed with CPTSD and awaiting the general assessment now but recon I have EUPD. Well suppose it could be worse and I’d need mood stability tablets which I was dreading due to my phobia of needles!! I do feel I could have BDD or something but guess I leave that to the pros.