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In a denial

Suchitra

My son 22 has been recently re-assesed for ASD and diagnosed ASD - level 2, he is totally denying it and says it is wrong diagnosis. He was diagnosed as a child for high functioning autism and is aware of it.

He is unemployed, with one year of computer science diploma. Not applying for any job and if I do, doesn't want me to mention ASD on the form.

He doesn't shower for many weeks, just stays in his room and only comes out for food. 

Gets upset with local social care and mental health teams visit. 

I would greatly appreciate some help and advise please. 

Thank you! 

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  • I don't know if this would help, it's a bit brutal.

    Perhaps hold up a mirror, figuratively, and point out these things. If he was level 1 or less would he be staying in a room dependent on other people for food, with no job, not applying for one and poor self care. 

    I have been hit by harsh home truths in the past. It hurts for a while but then you accept it as you can't argue your way out it. Or my stubbornness made me prove it wrong.

    If I was told I couldn't go out I'd have done it. Then I'd either right or if I couldn't I'd have to accept it. Then I would have to identify why not, which gives something to work with.

    Perhaps the issue is there is no down side to carrying on with the current routine. Maybe he needs some chores to do.

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  • I don't know if this would help, it's a bit brutal.

    Perhaps hold up a mirror, figuratively, and point out these things. If he was level 1 or less would he be staying in a room dependent on other people for food, with no job, not applying for one and poor self care. 

    I have been hit by harsh home truths in the past. It hurts for a while but then you accept it as you can't argue your way out it. Or my stubbornness made me prove it wrong.

    If I was told I couldn't go out I'd have done it. Then I'd either right or if I couldn't I'd have to accept it. Then I would have to identify why not, which gives something to work with.

    Perhaps the issue is there is no down side to carrying on with the current routine. Maybe he needs some chores to do.

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