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Any advice on how to feel confident going outside when you have social anxiety.

pinkfloyd88

Hi everyone, this is my first post. Has any one got any advice on how to  go out on my own when I have social anxiety, I feel like as soon as I step outside I feel awkward and stressed and every time I walk pass someone my eye contact goes straight to the ground. and when I get back home, I really feel the burnout which is so draining. 

Any tips on how to feel less awkward and more confident.

 

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  • Hello and welcome.

    A few things about going out on my own (personal to me):

    I try to keep my thoughts focused upon my goal (the reason) for my going out.  Maybe an errand, maybe something different.

    I try to remind myself that I am "awarding" myself credit for simply showing up.  Need a bottle of milk, showed up at the shop, bought the milk, returned home, enjoyed some of the milk in my coffee.

    It can help me to tell myself that my agenda / itinerary for the trip out is mine and I can vary it if necessary.

    If I have something unpleasant / challenging to do out and about, I try to put something in front of the task to allow me to regroup after the journey (before) the task, plus something I might enjoy doing (library or bookshop visit etc.) to help demarcate (after) the task - before I undertake the journey home.

    I tend to find it easier to go out on my own than with someone else too (I cannot easily manage their energy, issues, decision-making demands and input too - particularly if I am stressed, or have low energy during the outing).

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  • Hello and welcome.

    A few things about going out on my own (personal to me):

    I try to keep my thoughts focused upon my goal (the reason) for my going out.  Maybe an errand, maybe something different.

    I try to remind myself that I am "awarding" myself credit for simply showing up.  Need a bottle of milk, showed up at the shop, bought the milk, returned home, enjoyed some of the milk in my coffee.

    It can help me to tell myself that my agenda / itinerary for the trip out is mine and I can vary it if necessary.

    If I have something unpleasant / challenging to do out and about, I try to put something in front of the task to allow me to regroup after the journey (before) the task, plus something I might enjoy doing (library or bookshop visit etc.) to help demarcate (after) the task - before I undertake the journey home.

    I tend to find it easier to go out on my own than with someone else too (I cannot easily manage their energy, issues, decision-making demands and input too - particularly if I am stressed, or have low energy during the outing).

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