My assessment looms...trying to figure out how I mask!

My assessment is a month away...I’ve overthought the whole thing to oblivion...pages and pages of lists everywhere. I’m now thinking if I’m going to obsess over anything it should be trying to unpick how I mask. Please give any suggestions on books, you tube clips, personal experience...anything at all! How can i avoid walking in with my smiley, bubbly "I got this" mask on?

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  • I've mentioned this a few times, they may well be able to see through your mask. It depends on the experience of the people doing it but they should have some ability.

    I thought I was normal, but they were pretty sure before we even started the formal process, which I didn't know and is a bit extreme. I was worried, but my therapist had said not to be, but I still could not believe it till I got the result.

    When talking to them I tried to just say what I thought without worrying about them. I focussed on giving my best and accurate answer. I did not look at them much while answering so they did not influence my answer. I looked up occasionally so I knew when to stop, else it would've been a monologue. Perhaps my therapy sessions beforehand had broken my fear of just talking. They also put me at ease.

    Don't try to guess what they want to hear. Just say what you think is true.

    Remember it is not just what you say, but how you say it, the body language, the type of words, the sentences and topics. You can't mask it all. The range of topics means you won't be able to predict it all and the cracks will show.

    I know you will ignore me, but try not to worry. 

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  • I've mentioned this a few times, they may well be able to see through your mask. It depends on the experience of the people doing it but they should have some ability.

    I thought I was normal, but they were pretty sure before we even started the formal process, which I didn't know and is a bit extreme. I was worried, but my therapist had said not to be, but I still could not believe it till I got the result.

    When talking to them I tried to just say what I thought without worrying about them. I focussed on giving my best and accurate answer. I did not look at them much while answering so they did not influence my answer. I looked up occasionally so I knew when to stop, else it would've been a monologue. Perhaps my therapy sessions beforehand had broken my fear of just talking. They also put me at ease.

    Don't try to guess what they want to hear. Just say what you think is true.

    Remember it is not just what you say, but how you say it, the body language, the type of words, the sentences and topics. You can't mask it all. The range of topics means you won't be able to predict it all and the cracks will show.

    I know you will ignore me, but try not to worry. 

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