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Just Diagnosed

llanharry1701

I have just been diagnosed at the age of 43, I'm a man.I don't feel any different to before. I have struggled all my life in fitting in with others always feeling like the odd one out. I don't have any current friendships, despite trying hard. I am not sure if I have been unconsciously masking all my adult life? I get very tired at the end of my work day after spending all day with people. I don't feel like I have many sensory problems. I dislike background talking and use ear buds when on my breaks at work.

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  • I work from home mainly - and I find that pretty draining - so I can get on with head down work 5-6 hours a day with a couple of hours of online calls/messaging and emails.  I have to still take time out (non productive) at the end of the each day and the weekend is pretty much a 2 day recovery to be ready to face the next week.

    So I do feel for you regarding working with people all day long - whether there's any adjustments you can make to your working environment that lessen the wear on you each day, they may be worth looking into.

    We all have different sensory profiles, but there's other things at play to on the social and communication front. 

    I looked into Monotropism last weekend, and I can very much relate into that with my concentration at work, and have informally made adjustments at work recently - that gives me "do not disturb" periods actually more like "only message me if urgent" with my manager  - and we write on a shared online-board what we want the other to do or speak to them about (this means I'm mentally prepared for what will be raised in advance) next time we have a catch-up/check-in which is usually daily (at no fixed time) .  We've only recently implemented this last one and I think it's working great

    I feel everything is Work In Progress (WIP) we discover ourselves in time and find out what we like/dislike and come up with our our path/solutions.  I feel this is my approach anyways.

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  • I work from home mainly - and I find that pretty draining - so I can get on with head down work 5-6 hours a day with a couple of hours of online calls/messaging and emails.  I have to still take time out (non productive) at the end of the each day and the weekend is pretty much a 2 day recovery to be ready to face the next week.

    So I do feel for you regarding working with people all day long - whether there's any adjustments you can make to your working environment that lessen the wear on you each day, they may be worth looking into.

    We all have different sensory profiles, but there's other things at play to on the social and communication front. 

    I looked into Monotropism last weekend, and I can very much relate into that with my concentration at work, and have informally made adjustments at work recently - that gives me "do not disturb" periods actually more like "only message me if urgent" with my manager  - and we write on a shared online-board what we want the other to do or speak to them about (this means I'm mentally prepared for what will be raised in advance) next time we have a catch-up/check-in which is usually daily (at no fixed time) .  We've only recently implemented this last one and I think it's working great

    I feel everything is Work In Progress (WIP) we discover ourselves in time and find out what we like/dislike and come up with our our path/solutions.  I feel this is my approach anyways.

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