Thoughts on seeking partnerships

This is a well trodden topic, but I thought I might share some of my thoughts on it.  For many years now, the concept of partnership has occupied my mind constantly.  Now instead of just asking "how?" I ask "why?". 

My answer is to gain access to wider social circles and opportunities, gain emotional and moral support, personal enrichment and most of all a greater chance of survival.

Another important question is "what do I have to offer in exchange for this person's trust and attention, how can I make this work?".  At present I feel it would be unfair for the other person as I feel incomplete and incompetent, unless they too were a novice and we could learn together.

Expanding on "why?", my reasons are to remedy isolation, improve empathy and life skills by caring and living for another and understanding what real "love" feels like, increasing my and their's chances of survival and quality of life.

Also, if my would be partner was either neurotypical or divergent, it might influence the trajectory and ultimate destination of the relationship, depending on their ambitions, goals and interests.

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  • Last time I joined a volunteering group at a community farm, the supervisor began a conversation with me, and just as I was getting going, they left.  I want interaction that is two way, where I'm not just reiterating my origin story or precious interests just to be cast aside and forgotten as soon as I leave.  I've never once had somebody tell me about themselves or any relationship outside of professional or transactional (like counselling).

    I know about boundaries but I'm fed up of trusting myself to open up to somebody only to be disregarded.  Or if I'm seen as boring, immature or too unattractive.

    Is it fated to be like Aesop's fable of the fox who can't reach the grapes up the tree and convinces itself they aren't worth getting and gives up?

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  • Last time I joined a volunteering group at a community farm, the supervisor began a conversation with me, and just as I was getting going, they left.  I want interaction that is two way, where I'm not just reiterating my origin story or precious interests just to be cast aside and forgotten as soon as I leave.  I've never once had somebody tell me about themselves or any relationship outside of professional or transactional (like counselling).

    I know about boundaries but I'm fed up of trusting myself to open up to somebody only to be disregarded.  Or if I'm seen as boring, immature or too unattractive.

    Is it fated to be like Aesop's fable of the fox who can't reach the grapes up the tree and convinces itself they aren't worth getting and gives up?

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