I hate being autistic

I hate being autistic..

Being a level 2 autistic it sucks knowing you are different and the world will never accept you. If i could get a lobotomy i would. It sucks knowing that you are this way but cannot change it.

Add to that the pressure from society that has turned against disabled people and its just unbearable. Just something simple like human interaction and relationships are so much harder when autistic. I am in my 40s now and worry about pensions, being alone (though being with someone intimately terrifies me) I dont get social cues from people and the opposite sex.

I have been thinking recently that the assisted dying bill is a good thing and that it should be expanded to those with conditions that cant be changed and cause unnecessary pain and suffering.

I have more to write i am sure but my autistic brain has done its thing and given me a mind blank so cant think straight..

Anyone else hate autism?

Parents
  • the world will never accept you

    Everyone has other people who don't accept them. Neurotypical people form groups or cliques with other similar people and some of them will attack others who are "different" , not just because of a disability like autism, but because they are a different race, different religion, etc, etc. It's more difficult if you are alone and have no group to support you, but that's why a lot of autistic adults become members here - it can give a sense of belonging and support.

    Human interaction and relationships can be very difficult when one is autistic, but it is sometimes easier to relate to others on the spectrum. Perhaps you could find an autistic meet up group near you, not necessarily to find a partner if you are uncomfortable with intimacy, just to maybe make friends. Many autistic people find they only need one good friend, we don't all need to be part of a big group.

    Society always needs scapegoats - people to blame for society's problems - and it seems that at the moment, anyone who finds it difficult or impossible to work is being used for that purpose. I.don't know if this affects you, but if so you have my utmost sympathy. Unfortunately I don't have knowledge of disability benefits, but if you're struggling getting them or are under threat of them being taken away, if you post details I'm sure someone on here would give you some advice.

    You say you worry about pensions. I'm retired now, and I can say that it's much better than having to work or try to get working age benefits. You can get housing benefit if you rent, sometimes help with paying council tax, the winter fuel allowance has been reinstated, and you get free bus travel, prescriptions and eye tests. If your pension is below a certain amount you can also claim pension credit. And you don't have to have difficult interviews to get benefits, you just claim it all online because you're no longer expected to work. I love being retired.

    I also think that the assisted dying bill is a good thing, but only in certain circumstances. I don't think it's a good idea to focus on that, when it's possible your life might get better. Please try planning ways to make your life happier - sometimes unexpected things can happen.

    I wish you well.

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  • the world will never accept you

    Everyone has other people who don't accept them. Neurotypical people form groups or cliques with other similar people and some of them will attack others who are "different" , not just because of a disability like autism, but because they are a different race, different religion, etc, etc. It's more difficult if you are alone and have no group to support you, but that's why a lot of autistic adults become members here - it can give a sense of belonging and support.

    Human interaction and relationships can be very difficult when one is autistic, but it is sometimes easier to relate to others on the spectrum. Perhaps you could find an autistic meet up group near you, not necessarily to find a partner if you are uncomfortable with intimacy, just to maybe make friends. Many autistic people find they only need one good friend, we don't all need to be part of a big group.

    Society always needs scapegoats - people to blame for society's problems - and it seems that at the moment, anyone who finds it difficult or impossible to work is being used for that purpose. I.don't know if this affects you, but if so you have my utmost sympathy. Unfortunately I don't have knowledge of disability benefits, but if you're struggling getting them or are under threat of them being taken away, if you post details I'm sure someone on here would give you some advice.

    You say you worry about pensions. I'm retired now, and I can say that it's much better than having to work or try to get working age benefits. You can get housing benefit if you rent, sometimes help with paying council tax, the winter fuel allowance has been reinstated, and you get free bus travel, prescriptions and eye tests. If your pension is below a certain amount you can also claim pension credit. And you don't have to have difficult interviews to get benefits, you just claim it all online because you're no longer expected to work. I love being retired.

    I also think that the assisted dying bill is a good thing, but only in certain circumstances. I don't think it's a good idea to focus on that, when it's possible your life might get better. Please try planning ways to make your life happier - sometimes unexpected things can happen.

    I wish you well.

Children
  • I struggle to interact with other Autistic people as they can be quite overwhelming, not knowing when to back off or leave me alone. I went to a mental health group a while back and i think there were some autistic people in it and now they constantly bother me when i am reading etc..
    I feel i will be alone for a long period because i feel this way..

    Also benefits i have sorted just the thought of continuing on like this with no prospects of holidays etc is not a pretty future for me hence assisted dying is appealing