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What do you live for?

aurelis

I’m curious to know what keeps people going each day - do you have a thing that helps you get through? Or not, and you’re just living. A special interest, a person/people, a cause, a memory, a wish and future, God. anything. Life isn’t easy naturally, and I just want to know how others keep going.

At the moment, I feel my internal compass is missing, and I’m not sure what exactly I’m fighting for, and what gives me joy. I’m working on it at the moment, but I feel really not connected to anything. I feel a lot of inside of “I should feel this and this should be what gets me going” but I have nothing. Also I want to detox from social media so other voices aren’t trying to tell me that answer.

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  • Should and ought are two of the most self destructive words in the English language. Maybe instead of telling yourself that you should be feeling, you could ask yourself why it matters and what are you actually feeling instead of what you think you should be feeling.

    I think we go off things, things that used to make us happy no longer do, other things come along to take thier place.

    I think having a social media detox is a good idea, there's an overwhelming amount of stuff out there, far too much when ones in a bit of a transition period.

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  • Should and ought are two of the most self destructive words in the English language. Maybe instead of telling yourself that you should be feeling, you could ask yourself why it matters and what are you actually feeling instead of what you think you should be feeling.

    I think we go off things, things that used to make us happy no longer do, other things come along to take thier place.

    I think having a social media detox is a good idea, there's an overwhelming amount of stuff out there, far too much when ones in a bit of a transition period.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    going off things I get scared of. especially I think of people that know me for that thing, and how I would be able to interact with them if I said “nah, doesn’t interest me anymore”

    I think the “should be” feeling is people pleasing tendencies, and wanting to keep up as an “adult”, and also be able to feel I have an opinion to share, rather than nothing at all. “X needs to mean something to me” but really it actually doesn’t, and I don’t know what it means to me, besides what I’ve observed it means to others.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I knew a man who called the misuse of the word should, “hardening of the oughteries”.