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Can’t relax

Elfilis

I am just so unable to relax at the moment. Over the years I’ve been in situations that have really irritated me and have played on my mind since. But as time has gone on it’s like I’m now just feeling so overwhelmed and overloaded with irritation, anger, stress, you name it. Like at one point I can be triggered by actual stimuli and then another point I can just been triggered by my own mind remembering things I don’t want to remember. Im also finding like I can be triggered by my mind and then whilst I’m upset I get triggered by proper stimuli and then it just builds up and I’m not able to get a break. I keep remembering one time when I kept hearing noises I find so irritating and aggravating and it was my dad making those horrible noises and I kept getting irritated, kept stimming and all he said was, well I don’t want to say as it’s really a huge and upsetting and annoying trigger for me, but the thing is he wouldn’t do anything about it apart from laugh at me. He knew what he was doing and kept doing it and crossing my boundaries. I’ve had other situations with other family members have crossed my boundaries when I’ve stated what is a trigger to me and they just don’t care, they say oh just chill or something when I simply cant. I know I have only just had my autism diagnosis recently but even so, I’m upset I got shunned off and to “get over it” when to me it’s really easier said than done. 

I’m trying all sorts of things to relax me but my mind is so foggy with nasty things I’m unable to focus, relax etc. can anyone relate in some way? Is there any advice at all? 

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  • The first thing that comes to my mind is thought-stopping. I don’t know what your thoughts on therapy or if you are currently in therapy, but it sounds like learning more about thought-stopping might be helpful. The idea is basically whenever you have a negative thought, chase it with a positive or neutral thought.

    For example, earlier this year I kept having the recurring intrusive thought of something to the effect of “I can’t keep going,” but I would chase that thought with “But I can try.” Eventually the intrusive phrase left my mind, but it took a good week of thought-stopping to get rid of it.

  • in reply to profdanger

    Ahh ok to thought-stopping, thank you for the suggestion. I am not in therapy right now but I have done talking/cbt and hypnotherapy in the past but I wasn’t able to get along with the therapist, in fact they have all been rude so it’s made me more skeptical as whenever I’ve been, I’ve got judged negatively. I might considering doing more research though. I’m not sure if I should maybe considering doing emdr or something as we are speculating I could have ptsd but I’m not sure. I was going to try and get a gp to refer me for a general assessment but I can’t seem to get an appointment and going private is very expensive. I need the money for the switch 2 lol. Thank you for replying.

  • in reply to Elfilis

    Lol I understand the Switch 2 being a priority Joy

    I’ve never heard about emdr, that’s interesting!

    I’m sorry to hear that you’ve had negative experiences with therapists in the past. That always breaks my heart to hear, because I’ve had nothing but good experiences with the therapists I’ve had. Yeah, if you’ve got PTSD you may benefit from specialized help in that regard, so going to your gp when possible is a good idea.

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  • in reply to Elfilis

    Lol I understand the Switch 2 being a priority Joy

    I’ve never heard about emdr, that’s interesting!

    I’m sorry to hear that you’ve had negative experiences with therapists in the past. That always breaks my heart to hear, because I’ve had nothing but good experiences with the therapists I’ve had. Yeah, if you’ve got PTSD you may benefit from specialized help in that regard, so going to your gp when possible is a good idea.

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  • in reply to profdanger

    Lol yeah the switch 2 is so hard to get hold of, I had ordered it then I had an email to say they haven’t got stock at the moment, I hope they keep my order in place! Also gotta get that new Mario Kart game! 

    Aww I’m so glad you have had good experiences with your therapists, it’s hard to find a good one in the UK that’s for sure. I mean I’ve only been going by google with the ptsd but I am thinking that it’s possible I have that due to bullying growing up and more recently sexual harassment in the workplace.