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Feeling like an alien.

Roy

A month has passed now since I was diagnosed as autistic,  I just feel totally lost, I know it often comes up that autistic people feel like aliens in this world, I can honestly say I don’t feel part of  this world at all, I don’t feel I ever have. I spend less and less time with people, they are too hard to navigate and seem cruel most of the time 

I seem to have no emotions, I feel neither happy or sad, I just seem to exist. I got into trouble with a family member at the weekend for not showing empathy over an event. Am I supposed to make up emotions to please others, Is this all part of the mask?

Sorry, just venting.

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  • I know the feeling, Roy. I get up, brush my teeth, look at the alien in the mirror, and then put on my human suit for the day...again.

    That deep apathy and emotional numbness, a sense of having lost your place in the world and of a future that will always be just more of the same is something I associate personally with depression. I was like that for most of last year, but I'm feeling a lot better now. It comes and it goes. I just have to find a way to hang on and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

    So, hang in there. It's not your fault that other people are cruel or don't try to understand that you're a little bit different. They don't get to tell you who you must be or how you must conform to what they've decided is "normal". (At least that's what I'm going to tell the next family member that tells me yet again that I'm doing life wrong.)

    Maybe have a chat with your GP. If you're depressed, it could be quite treatable, and it should pass in time with the right support behind you. Or, maybe find a local Autistic space where you can meet others who will have better things to do than judge you (e.g., infodumping about trains). I'm guessing that NAS can hook you up with that.

    Speaking of infodumping, what's your passion, Roy?

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  • I know the feeling, Roy. I get up, brush my teeth, look at the alien in the mirror, and then put on my human suit for the day...again.

    That deep apathy and emotional numbness, a sense of having lost your place in the world and of a future that will always be just more of the same is something I associate personally with depression. I was like that for most of last year, but I'm feeling a lot better now. It comes and it goes. I just have to find a way to hang on and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

    So, hang in there. It's not your fault that other people are cruel or don't try to understand that you're a little bit different. They don't get to tell you who you must be or how you must conform to what they've decided is "normal". (At least that's what I'm going to tell the next family member that tells me yet again that I'm doing life wrong.)

    Maybe have a chat with your GP. If you're depressed, it could be quite treatable, and it should pass in time with the right support behind you. Or, maybe find a local Autistic space where you can meet others who will have better things to do than judge you (e.g., infodumping about trains). I'm guessing that NAS can hook you up with that.

    Speaking of infodumping, what's your passion, Roy?

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