So, you may remember me posting some time ago about the situation at my work with a young man in the office that was at risk of being 'let go' and my thoughts about 'saving' his job.
Thank you to those who posted advice. I just wanted to give you an update.
His job looks more and more at risk and I don't think I can save him.
It's interesting this concept of 'saving him'. Is it right to be trying to 'save' him - using the idea that I am 'saving' him. I guess I was hoping that someone would do the same for my own son.
The problem remains that he is not 'out'. But I feel that it would help him and help him save his job if he was 'out'. Hence, I am asking your advice about what I should do about this.
I guess I am reflecting about what I am hoping to achieve. Will saving this 'Apprentice's' job help him overall. And how far should I go? Do I talk to him about how I am Autistic and that is why I asked to be his mentor. And that I think he is Autistic too. Of note, he is definitely, definitely, definitely Autistic.
And if he comes out to me, to work, to our colleagues, what advice I should give him about his best shot at keeping his job.
Should I be pragmatic and say 'You're going to have to play a role to keep your job" - as in masking. And I'm aware that 'masking' is a risk factor for poor mental health. But. So is having no job.
Should I say, "You gotta come out to HR, so you have the full protection of the Equality Act". Because at the moment, you have no protection. No protection. No reasonable adjustments. No chance of being helped against the system.
Should I say nothing and just carry on. Silently. Waiting for the inevitable. I estimate that his current risk of losing his job is about 85%. And that if he loses his job, his chance of getting another one is about 5%. Feel free to challenge me on this.
Thank you for your advice.
Mrs Snooks
