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Mentoring my Apprentice - An Update (Mrs S)

mrs.snooks

So, you may remember me posting some time ago about the situation at my work with a young man in the office that was at risk of being 'let go' and my thoughts about 'saving' his job.

Thank you to those who posted advice. I just wanted to give you an update.

His job looks more and more at risk and I don't think I can save him.

It's interesting this concept of 'saving him'. Is it right to be trying to 'save' him - using the idea that I am 'saving' him. I guess I was hoping that someone would do the same for my own son.

The problem remains that he is not 'out'. But I feel that it would help him and help him save his job if he was 'out'. Hence, I am asking your advice about what I should do about this.

I guess I am reflecting about what I am hoping to achieve. Will saving this 'Apprentice's' job help him overall. And how far should I go? Do I talk to him about how I am Autistic and that is why I asked to be his mentor. And that I think he is Autistic too. Of note, he is definitely, definitely, definitely Autistic. 

And if he comes out to me, to work, to our colleagues, what advice I should give him about his best shot at keeping his job.

Should I be pragmatic and say 'You're going to have to play a role to keep your job" - as in masking. And I'm aware that 'masking' is a risk factor for poor mental health. But. So is having no job.

Should I say, "You gotta come out to HR, so you have the full protection of the Equality Act". Because at the moment, you have no protection. No protection. No reasonable adjustments. No chance of being helped against the system.

Should I say nothing and just carry on. Silently. Waiting for the inevitable. I estimate that his current risk of losing his job is about 85%. And that if he loses his job, his chance of getting another one is about 5%. Feel free to challenge me on this.

Thank you for your advice.

Mrs Snooks

  • in reply to mrs.snooks

    You seem to have done all you can.

    I know you see a kindred spirit, but does he see it too? I was blind to all this when I was younger, like all young people I also thought I knew best.

    I worry that you'll take it too personally and think about it.

    I have tried to help people before, but have had to question my own motivation sometimes. 

    Perhaps this role is not really for him and he will find something else. People are sometimes surprising when faced with adversity. You have to think it will be for the best even if it doesn't always look like it.

    Employer costs have risen a lot and entry level roles are being cut. This is just a general trend. I was reading some graduates are struggling. While keeping trainees may help in the future, getting to the future is the first priority. I don't know the financial position of your company.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Thank you   It's kind of you to post. Thank you for your advice.

  • in reply to mrs.snooks

    I think you are kind and want to help. But people also have to make their own destiny.

    I don't know how good he is at his job. Companies are not charities. I know the world is hard and cruel. Even the best people get let go sometimes when times change. Technically it is the role and not the person that is made redundant. I have been there more than once having been a model employee and given everything.

  • Chance of him losing his job 99.99%.

    Emailed the Management regarding helping him with finding a new job.

    Watching and powerless against yet another statistic?