Delayed

I have somehow delayed understanding, processing, everything delayed. As a result I very often do everything that others tell me. I do it automatically and only then it comes: no! I shouldn't habe done it! Why did I do it? Without question. It's better than in my childhood - as a kid I used to do absolutely everything that my peers told me to and they also laughed at me for this reason. Which I understood with delay. Like always. I remember my father once intervened and told me to not be so obedient to other kids. Now it's a bit better - I started understanding it by myself. But with delay. Is it typical problem here? Has anyone else this problem? How to deal? I'm being bullied at work and it's so hard I have to be prepared all tge time to deal with things that tge bully tells me to do. And I have to remind myself: don't do it! Don't do it! 

Parents
  • From what you have written delayed processing is only a problem if you keep coming up with exactly the same response in the same situation.  For me there’s a Taoist parable called Sāi Wēng Lost His Horse.  It helped me appreciate that maybe things can be seen from a different perspective which can open the possibility  of coming up with different responses than one is accustomed to making.  Well maybe anyway... :-) Best wishes to you  

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  • From what you have written delayed processing is only a problem if you keep coming up with exactly the same response in the same situation.  For me there’s a Taoist parable called Sāi Wēng Lost His Horse.  It helped me appreciate that maybe things can be seen from a different perspective which can open the possibility  of coming up with different responses than one is accustomed to making.  Well maybe anyway... :-) Best wishes to you  

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