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Delayed

Alien0n3arth

I have somehow delayed understanding, processing, everything delayed. As a result I very often do everything that others tell me. I do it automatically and only then it comes: no! I shouldn't habe done it! Why did I do it? Without question. It's better than in my childhood - as a kid I used to do absolutely everything that my peers told me to and they also laughed at me for this reason. Which I understood with delay. Like always. I remember my father once intervened and told me to not be so obedient to other kids. Now it's a bit better - I started understanding it by myself. But with delay. Is it typical problem here? Has anyone else this problem? How to deal? I'm being bullied at work and it's so hard I have to be prepared all tge time to deal with things that tge bully tells me to do. And I have to remind myself: don't do it! Don't do it! 

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  • I think Iain is right and has offered some good advice on this. I’ll be taking this on board as well as what you’re going through is something I struggle with too. I’m a people pleaser and without thinking I always say yes, even if I don’t want to do something. I’ve always been like this and it really burns me out and leads to uncomfortable situations.

    Afterwards I’m left thinking I should have said no or told them why I didn’t want to do this. One example is my sister asks me to attend her coffee mornings and I say yes but that involves a busy coffee shop, lots of people, and interacting. I always feel burned out for the rest of the day and hate on myself that I didn’t say no.

    Delayed thinking and processing is a pain and something I’m always trying to improve on but never seem to be able to do. You’re not alone in being like this.

      thanks for sharing your experiences and advice. This will be helpful to me too.

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  • I think Iain is right and has offered some good advice on this. I’ll be taking this on board as well as what you’re going through is something I struggle with too. I’m a people pleaser and without thinking I always say yes, even if I don’t want to do something. I’ve always been like this and it really burns me out and leads to uncomfortable situations.

    Afterwards I’m left thinking I should have said no or told them why I didn’t want to do this. One example is my sister asks me to attend her coffee mornings and I say yes but that involves a busy coffee shop, lots of people, and interacting. I always feel burned out for the rest of the day and hate on myself that I didn’t say no.

    Delayed thinking and processing is a pain and something I’m always trying to improve on but never seem to be able to do. You’re not alone in being like this.

      thanks for sharing your experiences and advice. This will be helpful to me too.

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