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Overload and breakup

Grahamm5790

So first time here. 43 year old mail with two kids. 

my names Graham. I’ve been in a 2 year relationship after a divorce and discovered I’m autistic. 

2 days ago after the pressure to say I would have more kids I said ok to it but my brain has been fighting it and saying no

after speaking to my girlfriend she has ended it saying she can’t coupe with me and that my head is too much for her 

I’m devastated and I know it’s the autism. 


I now don’t know if I can meet anyone else because I will always be like this and I don’t like being alone either  

i have anxiety too and it’s all really bad right now  and I have had to stay with a mate and also at my ex wife’s as I have nowhere else to go  my kids are really upset too and that’s hard 

I hope she can contact me again and maybe make up but so far totally ignoring me and that’s hard for me but I feel it’s a bad end to something that was amazing  

anyone know of any chat services with people who are autistic ways to meet people locally who are the same? 

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  • if she was applying the pressure to have more kids when you don't want them - then in my view, regardless of Autism, think you're better out of that relationship tbh.

    don't put the blame on yourself or your autism

    Understand it's raw now, but hopefully you'll feel better soon

  • in reply to Jalapeno

    Thank you. Do you know of any good online places to talk to people similar 

  • in reply to Grahamm5790

    With apologies, I missed another good option for this purpose from my earlier reply.

    Autistic Parents UK’s resources include peer support via both Facebook and Discord (an online chat app/site), facilitated groups, and one-on-one support:

    "Autistic Parents UK CIO was founded in 2020 by Autistic parents seeking connection and support, born from a deep understanding of the unique challenges Autistic individuals face while navigating parenthood. We are the only national, Autistic-led charity offering essential support services, resources, education and a thriving community for Autistic parents."

    Facebook - Autistic Parents UK - Peer Support Group

    Autistic Parents UK

    And one final suggestion: you could consider seeking emotional support from other parents who are, or who have been, in a similar situation via the NAS's parent-to-parent helpline. You can request a call here:

    NAS - Parent to Parent Emotional Support Helpline

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  • in reply to Grahamm5790

    With apologies, I missed another good option for this purpose from my earlier reply.

    Autistic Parents UK’s resources include peer support via both Facebook and Discord (an online chat app/site), facilitated groups, and one-on-one support:

    "Autistic Parents UK CIO was founded in 2020 by Autistic parents seeking connection and support, born from a deep understanding of the unique challenges Autistic individuals face while navigating parenthood. We are the only national, Autistic-led charity offering essential support services, resources, education and a thriving community for Autistic parents."

    Facebook - Autistic Parents UK - Peer Support Group

    Autistic Parents UK

    And one final suggestion: you could consider seeking emotional support from other parents who are, or who have been, in a similar situation via the NAS's parent-to-parent helpline. You can request a call here:

    NAS - Parent to Parent Emotional Support Helpline

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