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How do you steer your ship? (Autonomy discussion with an optimistic twist)

maxlinger60

Hi all,

been living with family for the last two months or so, and tensions have skyrocketed to the point that I spent my Fourth of July alone in my car. So, this isn’t a pity party, but rather a boost of positivity. I believe in myself, I like where I’m going, and I want to hear how yall keep yourselves neurodivergent, confident, and self assured in the face of resistance.

here are some ways I do:

1. Listen to my comedy podcasts and shows that my family disapproves of. Currently, I’m a big fan of Dropout Gamechanger and some other comedians.

2. Staying kind and patient: the vibes are BAD so I like to grin and bear it without letting them tip me over. I’ll take advice, but only if I keep my dignity.

3. Hammock time: I have a hammock strung up on our patio where nobody else sits. It’s very quiet and peaceful

4. Keeping self improvement private: I don’t like having my metric be the moods of other people, so I work in myself using my own standards. Today, I made a diet plan for the next few days. Tomorrow, I’ll focus on budgeting and finance. I’ve already picked up several shifts for next week so I’m one step closer to financial independence!

stay chill, and lots and lots of love,

Max smiling face with hearts

  • maxlinger60 said:
    I want to hear how yall keep yourselves neurodivergent, confident, and self assured in the face of resistance.

    I keep myself very physically active to burn off a lot of excess energy and make sure I am ready to sleep come bedtime. This is typically though my work (construction) and the gym. Running can be great but it is often too hot here to do this safely.

    I use mindfulness and meditation to create little pockets of time during the day to assess my stress levels and conciously lower it to a healthier level. These can be just 5 mins but it also helps me identify the causes of the anxiety and formulate a plan to deal with it or accept it.

    For goals I try to take stock of the positives when I get into bed and have a writing pad to capture all the thoughts in my head so I can sleep safe in the fact they will not be lost overnight. This helps me plan ahead and have more restful sleep.

    Quite often I don't get much time to relax physically (long days in the construction site followed by cooking, cleaning and housework) so I always try to allow 9 hours for bed so there is plenty of time to recharge. A bit of meditation in bed allows me to fall asleep within about 10 seconds normally - I can heartily recommend it.

    Self improvement needs a routine to work well for me so I try to make a schedule so I have half an hour in every evening for studying a language followed by a TV episode I follow as a reward. When I have more time I try to add more things and keep a checklist of things I want to learn long term and add these when my schedule allows.

    I've been catching up on progress in physics and restoring some architectural salvage this last month so it is an eclectic mix.

    It takes some discipline but once you set a routine it becomes a lot easier to handle in my experience.