Feeling family members who have Neurotypical child are saying their children are skilled in many areas, what can your Neurodiverse child do?

It rather sounds as though some of the other family members have approached describing their children as though they were some sort of fashion accessory about which to boast.  I am concerned that is a shaky foundation upon which, longer term, to securely build self-confidence within children as they move forward in their development).

The other adult relatives (apart from your parents) also do not seem very aware or knowledgeable of the range of capabilities and qualities of individual Autistic / Neurodivergent children and adults. 

Whereas, you and your parents are being true to observing, recognising and valuing your Son and then supporting him in celebrating his achievements and pursuing his dreams.  Children and adults progress through their lives at their own pace. 

I believe that wellbeing and secure development are often incompatible with artificial time pressures, undue stress and comparisons with other people.

I feel it reflects really poorly on those who ask questions such as "what can your Neurodiverse child do?".

Your Son is his own person - not an object of entertainment for those other people.

Your parents have described your Son is very bright and able. 

Sharing with your Son; how to explore different ways to learn to enjoy both familiar and new experiences - for his own entertainment - will more likely, in time,  become an integral and enduring part of his journey ...than prioritising impressing the social climbers in the wider family would actually fulfill his needs and interests.

You and your parents know your Son best of all.  Trusting your instincts on his behalf - until he has opportunities to start to do likewise himself, one topic at a time - that seems a worthwhile aim.

(Those other people will just have to learn to entertain themselves - as best they may - in their own strange bubble).

It rather sounds as though some of the other family members have approached describing their children as though they were some sort of fashion accessory about which to boast.  I am concerned that is a shaky foundation upon which, longer term, to securely build self-confidence within children as they move forward in their development).

The other adult relatives (apart from your parents) also do not seem very aware or knowledgeable of the range of capabilities and qualities of individual Autistic / Neurodivergent children and adults. 

Whereas, you and your parents are being true to observing, recognising and valuing your Son and then supporting him in celebrating his achievements and pursuing his dreams.  Children and adults progress through their lives at their own pace. 

I believe that wellbeing and secure development are often incompatible with artificial time pressures, undue stress and comparisons with other people.

I feel it reflects really poorly on those who ask questions such as "what can your Neurodiverse child do?".

Your Son is his own person - not an object of entertainment for those other people.

Your parents have described your Son is very bright and able. 

Sharing with your Son; how to explore different ways to learn to enjoy both familiar and new experiences - for his own entertainment - will more likely, in time,  become an integral and enduring part of his journey ...than prioritising impressing the social climbers in the wider family would actually fulfill his needs and interests.

You and your parents know your Son best of all.  Trusting your instincts on his behalf - until he has opportunities to start to do likewise himself, one topic at a time - that seems a worthwhile aim.

(Those other people will just have to learn to entertain themselves - as best they may - in their own strange bubble).