Feeling family members who have Neurotypical child are saying their children are skilled in many areas, what can your Neurodiverse child do?

Hi and welcome to the community.

It's difficult to advise as you don't say what age he is or what his skills and interests are. But to generalise, here are some qualities often seen in autistic children:

Good attention to detail - they may notice things others don't. This skill can help once they become adult with a career in music, cooking, programming and many more.

Good at noticing patterns - this can be useful for a career in data analysis or accounting

Highly focussed - this can allow them to become experts in their areas of interest.

Creative - they may be very good at art and crafting

Acceptance of others - those on the spectrum are usually very loyal to those they care about

Honesty and reliability - this can help them gain trust and respect from others.

Thank you,, My Son is nearly nine.  He has a very good long term memory, he has a very good memory for stories, dialogue from his favourite TV shows and lyrics to his favourite songs and a very good sense of rhythm, his teacher says he has a talent for making patterns on the computer. 

Sounds like your son is a budding musician, artist and writer, I wonder how many of your relatives are those things? People have such odd views about what an autistic person can and can't do, maybe thee are some thing's he'll struggle with, so what, everybody NT or ND has things they struggle with and things they're good at. Children develop at differnt rates, your son is 8 nearly 9, don't let others dishearten him and take away from the things he enjoys and is good at. 

I remember other mums at some playgroups I took my children too, some were really competitive and I thought why, why does it matter that your child has mastered using a spoon before mine, mine's walking before your's and that means what precisely? Sorry to say this, but it sounds like some weird kind of snobbery to me.

There's so much pressure on us as parents and as children, let him be the happy boy he sounds as though he is, at the end of the day being happy in yourself is far more important than going to a top university, or having a massively well paid job, letting him be a human being, not a human doing.

Sounds like your son is a budding musician, artist and writer, I wonder how many of your relatives are those things? People have such odd views about what an autistic person can and can't do, maybe thee are some thing's he'll struggle with, so what, everybody NT or ND has things they struggle with and things they're good at. Children develop at differnt rates, your son is 8 nearly 9, don't let others dishearten him and take away from the things he enjoys and is good at. 

I remember other mums at some playgroups I took my children too, some were really competitive and I thought why, why does it matter that your child has mastered using a spoon before mine, mine's walking before your's and that means what precisely? Sorry to say this, but it sounds like some weird kind of snobbery to me.

There's so much pressure on us as parents and as children, let him be the happy boy he sounds as though he is, at the end of the day being happy in yourself is far more important than going to a top university, or having a massively well paid job, letting him be a human being, not a human doing.