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Kim

Hello everyone,

 I work as a quality manager, I have a small team of 3 staff, I find this difficult but I thought I was managing them, but recently one of them has been making lots of mistakes and refuses to do the work I give her. So I had a 1 to 1 meeting to chat about it. She over reacted and started to shout at me and dominate the conversation. I became very anxious and could barely continue the meeting, as I was shutting down. 

I was told by HR this morning that she has made a grievance against me. Even though I’m shocked and worried I have been told not to be. That everything will be okay. But the HR manager suggested that one of the outcomes might be that I should inform my team that I am autistic. So far, only the management team know and tend to ignore it which means I am still heavily masking at work. I think it might lead to more problems, as I already have what has been described as ‘a difficult team’. Also non of them have English as a first language so they might not understand the implications.

Previously my therapist suggested that maybe I should tell everyone at work, as it would help prevent misunderstandings from all sides. I would prefer not to have a team and for them to report to another manager, they seem to listen to and like the operations manager because he flatters them.

Does anyone have any advice? Have you been in a similar situation? 

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  • I manage around 50 staff in-directly, I manage the staff who manage them.   All my staff know i have a diagnosis, some of them have ND themselves be it ASD , ADHD, Dyslexia etc.  

    Its up to you wether to disclose, it has helped me in some situations its made no difference in others. HR cant make you disclose its your choice and making you disclose is discrimination itself.  

    I took on a significantly under performing team and have had grievances a go go for the last 18 months , its part of being a manager and doing your job and if you care about doing a good job its hugely frustrating and upsetting.   

    Most likely your staff have put a grievance in because they dont like being managed not because its you and your ASD but because they are likely lazy and you challenge them.  

    Record every conversation in writing and its content, follow up the outcome of the meeting with an email summary of the discussion and actions if you have a performance evaluation system make sure you record peoples professional development requirements on their with actions and mist importantly be consistent with staff, then if they do complain you can be confident you are in solid ground. 

    Additionally look at the grievance and ask yourself could I have done something differently and might I in future do it differently next time, it never hurts to self assess!  

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  • I manage around 50 staff in-directly, I manage the staff who manage them.   All my staff know i have a diagnosis, some of them have ND themselves be it ASD , ADHD, Dyslexia etc.  

    Its up to you wether to disclose, it has helped me in some situations its made no difference in others. HR cant make you disclose its your choice and making you disclose is discrimination itself.  

    I took on a significantly under performing team and have had grievances a go go for the last 18 months , its part of being a manager and doing your job and if you care about doing a good job its hugely frustrating and upsetting.   

    Most likely your staff have put a grievance in because they dont like being managed not because its you and your ASD but because they are likely lazy and you challenge them.  

    Record every conversation in writing and its content, follow up the outcome of the meeting with an email summary of the discussion and actions if you have a performance evaluation system make sure you record peoples professional development requirements on their with actions and mist importantly be consistent with staff, then if they do complain you can be confident you are in solid ground. 

    Additionally look at the grievance and ask yourself could I have done something differently and might I in future do it differently next time, it never hurts to self assess!  

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