I made a promise that I feel I just can't break

When I was 7 years old I made a promise to my mum that when she goes to heaven I'll go too, many years have passed and I have to admit they are days when I'm terrified because my mum has Alzheimer's now and then they are days when I feel ok because my problems that I face in life and the absolute chaos that goes on in my head will be over, I was diagnosed with autism a few weeks ago and at first I thought it was good because it helped me understand certain things that I previously couldn't, I announced my diagnosis because in truth I thought that the people who threaten me as they pass by in their cars might stop when they know why I'm me, I still don't know why I'm me but I don't like it because some members of my family said that I should be ashamed of myself and I can't see my nieces and nephews because I brought shame on them, these are the days I want to leave because it's killing me anyway, I don't know why I'm posting this, I'm really sorry if anything on this has offended you, I'm sorry 

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  • Hi! First of all. I am also big believer in heaven and afterlife and I have not been offended in anyway there. Even if she is ready to go to heaven, you will join her one day, but make most of the life you have first. You don’t have to go at the same time. Also I’m so sorry your family have said that about you! You should not be ashamed for having autism at all. You are who you are and they are the ones who should be ashamed for saying such a thing. If that’s how they are going to treat you then it’s probably best if you lose contact with them if that’s possible? I hope you feel better soon 

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  • Hi! First of all. I am also big believer in heaven and afterlife and I have not been offended in anyway there. Even if she is ready to go to heaven, you will join her one day, but make most of the life you have first. You don’t have to go at the same time. Also I’m so sorry your family have said that about you! You should not be ashamed for having autism at all. You are who you are and they are the ones who should be ashamed for saying such a thing. If that’s how they are going to treat you then it’s probably best if you lose contact with them if that’s possible? I hope you feel better soon 

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