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Reddit- Opinions are overwhelming

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I have hsd dignosed but I don't have heds dignosed but its highly likley i do , when I search on reddit is it even worth pursuing a dignosis like 95percent post like yes.

I've been fighting for eds dignosis for 2 years no lucky nhs, and people say to push , but what if i don't want to what if its making me miserable, but I feel like i have this pressure that I should stick it out bite my teeth and do it, but I can't im so burnt out, but if I dont go through with it I'll regret it because the majority says i should.

I feel like i have to because I'll regret it but its to much, but to see no one has this experience it makes me invalidate my feelings because no one doesn't disagree not to get dignosed, but its to relentless for me the pushing and pushing its to draining, but everyone insists that i follow through get the dignosis , it just doesn't seem like a enjoyable life really.

But if my opinion is like 5% of what reddit thinks i feel like a idiot or wrong i feel like.

Does anyone experience somthing like this similar?

I also noticed i have no problem forming opinions on colours games flims basic things, but big important choices , like doctors, life choices, big world ideas, i can't form a opinion or the right opinion, complex world stuff around this makes me want to break down with the fear that I made the wrong choice because 90percent of the world disagrees.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    It is abit confusing I admit , but as I got abit older I started to question how I think , I couldn't gauge what most of the world thought with opinions , so I go to reddit sometimes to understand what most people believe in whether that be medical/political/acceptable/right or wrong.

    I dont go out much and I don't understand what most people think is the most accepted opinion or the most correct approach is to do.

    I struggle to make big decisions, specially when my big decision is disapproved of lots of people , makes me doubt whether i made the wrong choice and sometimes I don't want to do what everyone is doing opinion wise , and that makes me feel like im being a idiot even though I don't want to do what most tell me.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Yeah i feel confused because I should follow the advice because its the best thing to do , but practically with the nhs these days its burning me out , and i do feel this pressure to do it because of this idea of you will regret it , but it just doesn't seem enjoyable to chase this for years.

    I think sometimes with opinions , there is no right or wrong and tend to see both point of views what ever that opinion is usually big opinions, and when I look on reddit i tend to go with the most upvoted opinion because that's what the majority believe, and if most people don't hold my opinion is feel like my opinion isn't really a valid opinion because it isn't a good opinion.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    I have no idea what you're talking about,

    HDS - hypermobility spectrum disorder. It is a spectrum disorder of joint issues.

    HEDS - Hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (hEDS), which used to be known as the hypermobility type or type 3, is thought to be the most common genetic connective tissue disorder. This is at one end of the spectrum.

    EDS - The Ehlers-Danlos syndromes (EDS) are a group of thirteen individual genetic conditions, all of which affect the body’s connective tissue. 

    It is all explained here:

    https://www.ehlers-danlos.org/what-is-eds/information-on-eds/hypermobile-eds-and-hypermobility-spectrum-disorders/

  • I'm sorry I have no idea what you're talking about, What are eds and hsd and why does the opinion of reddit users matte so much?

  • It's your life. Some people on an internet board don't know you or your circumstances. It is reasonable to see what others say and consider their view, but you don't need to do what they say.

    If you are struggling, ask:

    1. Do I need to do this now.
    2. What happens if I do nothing, can I just wait.
    3. Can I do this later and take a break for a few weeks or months.
    4. What is the minimum I could do to keep it going, can I just send an email, or letter. Do I need to call. Am I in a queue. How do I get in the queue.
    5. Could I ask for some help. Can someone else call for me.

    If you can't take the pressure, consider where the pressure is coming from. What is the reason you feel pressure. Is it real. Are you pressuring yourself for no reason.

    You are confused about why you don't want to follow the advice because really you know it is what you should do, but you are looking for a reason to stop.

    Don't run away or give up. I think you want the answer.

    But you need some space to reduce the stress.

    You struggle to make big decisions either because you don't have enough info to decide, or you are scared of the responsibility and making a wrong decision

    But most things you can do again, or change your mind. There is normally a way out.

    You can't always get everything right first time.