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Letting my thoughts out - work, mood, anxiety.

MJJ24

So I am feeling a bit down and frustrated at the moment. I used to work as a apprentice student veterinary nurse, I did 40 hour weeks but it was okay because I enjoyed it. I was around people all day, I worked hard, I communicated with people. We were short staffed but I was managing. I was there for nearly 4 years but for a lot of the last few months I had started really struggling for some reason. Feeling super anxious, down, crying all the time not being able to concentrate. I got signed off for a while but eventually left after a few failed attempts at coming back. I went on meds for my anxiety and then got diagnosed as autistic. I started a new job not too long as after left the old one. This time in a school doing behind the scenes admin work and cleaning. Its 20 hours a week so half the time, nowhere near as much responsibility, not around people as much. I was doing okayish at first but now I am struggling again. Feeling anxious, feeling down and stuck almost. Its like I'm not happy and this is not the job I want to do but I don't think I could go back to the nursing right now anyway as I am still struggling as before. I just don't understand how I can go to working all the time to struggling so much in a much simpler job. And I don't know how to feel unstuck as right now no job seems right and my mum tells me a lot of people don't enjoy their job but like I feel my feels are so big. Like I look at it realistically and the job is not bad and the people are nice and supportive but for some reason when I'm there, its not just ugh this sucks, its I hate it, I am stressed, I am overwhelmed I can't do this. But every day I go and I push through because I need a job and I need money. 

Sorry for the rant, I am not really sure what I wanted from this I just needed to let it out. Anyone else gone through anything similar? Do people work and if so how do you cope? What sort of jobs do you do?

  • Hi MJJ24,

    Thank you for reaching out, I can see you have already had some really supportive replies from our online community.

    Sometimes workplaces can offer some adjustments that may be helpful. I have linked our What support can I get at work. If you do decide to go down the route of requesting some adjustments, the NAS has a Template letter request reasonable adjustments at work.

    I hope that things feel a little easier soon.

    Best Wishes,

    Olivia Mod

  • It is easier to do a job to you like than one you don't.

    It is also easier to do a job with which you are familiar, with people you know well, than a new one.

    I expect you may have pushed too hard in the first one and have not yet recovered.

    Make sure you don't take it all super seriously, don't worry about work when you are not there. Try to reduce stress and pressure, make sure you sleep and do something you enjoy in your free time.

  • This is a good place to have a rant.

    I have had periods in my life when I struggled to cope with work colleagues, but I am retired now so thankfully that is behind me. I’m sorry I can’t offer anything that would be of practical help. 

  • Hi, I'm really sorry you are struggling. I used to be a RVN for over 10 years so I get the pressures from that role. I also understand the big feels, I get them too and it's tough. I was recently diagnosed as autistic.

    Do you think you could be experiencing autistic burnout? There are some resources on this site that may help. Burnout in general is very common in veterinary and you may not yet be recovered even with changing job.

    Another idea, can you isolate what parts make you feel overwhelmed at work at the moment. If you can take them in small sections are there any little adjustments you can make to help it be more manageable?  I find in my new career sitting for long periods of time isn't great so I try and get up and move regularly as excess screen time can be bad for me as well. Very small thing but makes a massive difference.

    I hope you feel better soon.

  • Better out than in, all of us need an emotional vomit every now and again