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Family not believing

Kellyc49

So i got diagnosed this week   although im 49 and married . 

Im not going tell my mum sister or  2 of my kids   (I have told 1 of my sons who's understanding) 

I've heard the way they talk bout people and seems to not believe in autism .

Mind you if the shower was on other foot it be different outcome . !

So for now i will remain  masking  .. 

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  • Hello and welcome.

    I hope your diagnosis confirmation will, over time, be of assistance to you in a variety of different ways.

    I believe and support that an Autism diagnosis is: your own news, part of your personal life history and for you to decide and control to whom you feel comfortable / secure to share the disclosure of your diagnosis.

    I understand what you shared; in terms of the realisation that some close family members may not be equipped to support people with differences - and the concern around their potential reaction / behaviour in response to your news - it can be an awkward journey to navigate.

    I feel that: time to absorb your news, at your own pace, and the exploration of the adoption of personal adaptions in support of your needs and ambitions, plus trialling safe disclosure to people and within settings which don't make you feel vulnerable but do positively add to your discovery journey - are each within your own control.

    Nowhere is it written that all things, post diagnosis confirmation, need to be addressed in a short timeframe.  Or, indeed, at all.  It is for you to decide how and when to experiment with applying your new knowledge in support of advocating for yourself.

    Wishing you the freedom of time and space - to acclimatise to your news - in the style which best supports you - and some opportunities to share your news with a few good people (from whichever spheres of your life make you feel most at ease - as that support is not limited in its availability via relatives).

    Take care.

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  • Hello and welcome.

    I hope your diagnosis confirmation will, over time, be of assistance to you in a variety of different ways.

    I believe and support that an Autism diagnosis is: your own news, part of your personal life history and for you to decide and control to whom you feel comfortable / secure to share the disclosure of your diagnosis.

    I understand what you shared; in terms of the realisation that some close family members may not be equipped to support people with differences - and the concern around their potential reaction / behaviour in response to your news - it can be an awkward journey to navigate.

    I feel that: time to absorb your news, at your own pace, and the exploration of the adoption of personal adaptions in support of your needs and ambitions, plus trialling safe disclosure to people and within settings which don't make you feel vulnerable but do positively add to your discovery journey - are each within your own control.

    Nowhere is it written that all things, post diagnosis confirmation, need to be addressed in a short timeframe.  Or, indeed, at all.  It is for you to decide how and when to experiment with applying your new knowledge in support of advocating for yourself.

    Wishing you the freedom of time and space - to acclimatise to your news - in the style which best supports you - and some opportunities to share your news with a few good people (from whichever spheres of your life make you feel most at ease - as that support is not limited in its availability via relatives).

    Take care.

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