Family not believing

My mom and sis said together, that I was very weird kid and from my mom's words 'very special', perfect child, compliant, holding strong yo the rules, but there were also problems with me- my meltdowns,  but they don't accept the idea that I could have been autistic.  And I leave them with the belief and knowledge they have since they are not willing to learn anything new. For me the suspicion and the therapists suspicion is enough as for now. I don't need anyone else validation, I know what I was through and I kinda feel proud of myself because I managed it somehow despite so many problems.  I think that the diagnosis is for the person most important. There ate many ignorant people out there and they are unable to understand or even to try to get someone's perspective. 

My mom and sis said together, that I was very weird kid and from my mom's words 'very special', perfect child, compliant, holding strong yo the rules, but they don't accept the idea that I could have been autistic.  And I leave them with the belief and knowledge they have since they are not willing to learn anything new. For me the suspicion and the therapists suspicion is enough as for now. I don't need anyone else validation, I know what I was through and I kinda feel proud of myself because I managed it somehow despite so many problems.  I think that the diagnosis is for the person most important. There ate many ignorant people out there and they are unable to understand or even to try to get someone's perspective. 

Hello, I hope the news brings you some personal comfort and allows you to be kinder to yourself.

Who you tell and what you change, if anything, is entirely up to you.

Although people may talk amongst themselves once one person knows.

You may find there are small changes you can make over time, that may even be unnoticeable to others, that might make your life easier.

For you to be diagnosed you must have some things you struggle with. Perhaps you could talk about these and how other people could help you. Maybe by fixing individual problems rather than  just giving the diagnosis, over time people will come to appreciate your problems and be less dismissive. The problem is that other peotdont really understand.

Hello and welcome.

I hope your diagnosis confirmation will, over time, be of assistance to you in a variety of different ways.

I believe and support that an Autism diagnosis is: your own news, part of your personal life history and for you to decide and control to whom you feel comfortable / secure to share the disclosure of your diagnosis.

I understand what you shared; in terms of the realisation that some close family members may not be equipped to support people with differences - and the concern around their potential reaction / behaviour in response to your news - it can be an awkward journey to navigate.

I feel that: time to absorb your news, at your own pace, and the exploration of the adoption of personal adaptions in support of your needs and ambitions, plus trialling safe disclosure to people and within settings which don't make you feel vulnerable but do positively add to your discovery journey - are each within your own control.

Nowhere is it written that all things, post diagnosis confirmation, need to be addressed in a short timeframe.  Or, indeed, at all.  It is for you to decide how and when to experiment with applying your new knowledge in support of advocating for yourself.

Wishing you the freedom of time and space - to acclimatise to your news - in the style which best supports you - and some opportunities to share your news with a few good people (from whichever spheres of your life make you feel most at ease - as that support is not limited in its availability via relatives).

Take care.