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Understanding identity following a diagnosis

Amberet

Hi everyone,

It’s my first time posting here - it’s great to have joined the community.

I’m a 40yo woman diagnosed with ASD a month and half ago. I think I’ve always known I didn’t quite fit into a neurotypical world but it was only when my son was recently also diagnosed that it all fell into place.

I’ve masked (very effectively) all my life, and I’m finding it hard to untangle which bits of me are real and which are my mask. I’m trying really hard to be myself but honestly sometimes can’t tell who that is. I wonder if anyone else found this too and had any advice?

Parents

  • Hi, I was diagnosed a few days ago, I’m in my fifties. The assessor said I had built my world around me and done a very good job of staying under the radar.

    Masking most probably starts when we start school, I’m really  wondering how much of me is really me. Who is this person I created?

    Its like pulling a loose thread on a jumper, before you realise it, there is no jumper left.

    I’m going to start with not punishing myself so much, I’m not mad or bad. I think I need to learn, to say no.

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  • Hi, I was diagnosed a few days ago, I’m in my fifties. The assessor said I had built my world around me and done a very good job of staying under the radar.

    Masking most probably starts when we start school, I’m really  wondering how much of me is really me. Who is this person I created?

    Its like pulling a loose thread on a jumper, before you realise it, there is no jumper left.

    I’m going to start with not punishing myself so much, I’m not mad or bad. I think I need to learn, to say no.

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