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Roy

I’m just venting to be honest, I’ve had a bit of a rollercoaster week, as many of you know, I was diagnosed this week. 
I’ve only told my mother and sister, both were fine and obviously a few questions.

My wife was phoning her sister tonight, so I said it was fine for my wife to share my diagnosis. I heard a very condescending voice say,” well how does that change anything?”

I now feel totally deflated and angry.

I wonder if anyone else has had negative replies? I do mean wether diagnosed or self identifying.

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  • I'm not diagnosed but it was highlighted by my counsellor as a possibility, and I'm awaiting assessment. I found it quite interesting to ask (trusted) friends what they thought. One friend said they always thought I had "something", others said they'd never considered it before, some said they still think not. My counsellor did highlight that some will think not though, because they also do the things I've mentioned as indicators. That's exactly what I did with a family member about 10 years ago. It took a long time for things to click. Friends and family have been supportive.

    Work on the other hand were different. When I told them I said all my meeds were currently being met. It took them 2 weeks to ackowledge receipt of the email. When I told one of the driectors, they responded "Really?". When they tried to force me back into the office, and I wanted to then discuss adjustments, they were pretty much refusing to discuss it, outright rejecting things without discussion, or dismissing things because they weren't a problem for anyone else. I don't work there anymore, and am currently in the process of sorting employment tribunal. My new workplace is remote only which is a really good fit for me, and I'm much happier.

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  • I'm not diagnosed but it was highlighted by my counsellor as a possibility, and I'm awaiting assessment. I found it quite interesting to ask (trusted) friends what they thought. One friend said they always thought I had "something", others said they'd never considered it before, some said they still think not. My counsellor did highlight that some will think not though, because they also do the things I've mentioned as indicators. That's exactly what I did with a family member about 10 years ago. It took a long time for things to click. Friends and family have been supportive.

    Work on the other hand were different. When I told them I said all my meeds were currently being met. It took them 2 weeks to ackowledge receipt of the email. When I told one of the driectors, they responded "Really?". When they tried to force me back into the office, and I wanted to then discuss adjustments, they were pretty much refusing to discuss it, outright rejecting things without discussion, or dismissing things because they weren't a problem for anyone else. I don't work there anymore, and am currently in the process of sorting employment tribunal. My new workplace is remote only which is a really good fit for me, and I'm much happier.

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