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Roy

I’m just venting to be honest, I’ve had a bit of a rollercoaster week, as many of you know, I was diagnosed this week. 
I’ve only told my mother and sister, both were fine and obviously a few questions.

My wife was phoning her sister tonight, so I said it was fine for my wife to share my diagnosis. I heard a very condescending voice say,” well how does that change anything?”

I now feel totally deflated and angry.

I wonder if anyone else has had negative replies? I do mean wether diagnosed or self identifying.

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  • I think for most people on the receiving end they don't really know what make of your news. They are probably thinking what does it mean for them. They think they don't need to do anything with the information.

    They don't see any problem in you, so they don't think they need to change how they interact with you, so it is no big deal. 

    Assuming they do care, then they probably don't know whether to be pleased or upset for you. It is likely hard for them to guage what reaction is appropriate as they can't relate.

    I think this is the reason for the underwhelming response.

    That and the comment that is no big deal as everyone is a bit autistic. 3 people said that to me when I said I wanted to get diagnosed.

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  • I think for most people on the receiving end they don't really know what make of your news. They are probably thinking what does it mean for them. They think they don't need to do anything with the information.

    They don't see any problem in you, so they don't think they need to change how they interact with you, so it is no big deal. 

    Assuming they do care, then they probably don't know whether to be pleased or upset for you. It is likely hard for them to guage what reaction is appropriate as they can't relate.

    I think this is the reason for the underwhelming response.

    That and the comment that is no big deal as everyone is a bit autistic. 3 people said that to me when I said I wanted to get diagnosed.

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