Mistakes and self esteem

Does anyone ever make a mistake and then start questioning their very moral existence as if the small mistake somehow makes them feel like less of a person or not worthy enough? Like how stupid could I be or why didn’t I just do that one thing before hand? I feel this a lot at work when something goes wrong and it makes me feel really detached, uncomfortable, uneasy and I start obsessing over it till it passes. I also start thinking everyone else will think I’m incompetent. I look at some people and I try to imagine or understand how they seem to brush themselves off and not have it hit their ego like a runaway train. I also feel a sense of shame I suppose. Usually sleep helps me as I feel a new day is almost like a reset button mentally.

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  • It was my massive problem in the past for many years. I still feel very uncomfortable,  but I keep repeating myself that it happens to everyone and even if someone says something about me, it's nothing bad. People gossip because they like it, it's their entertainment and an occasion to strengthen their position in the group (just my observation) that's why they gossip. Not only about you or me. They find anyone. Not all if them but many. I know how it feels literally like bullying.  But it's unfortunately unavoidable. Making mistakes is also unavoidable,  everyone makes them, those who strive to present themselves as perfect- too. So I keep repeating it to myself and it somehow helps me but I'm still not fully free of it. 

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  • It was my massive problem in the past for many years. I still feel very uncomfortable,  but I keep repeating myself that it happens to everyone and even if someone says something about me, it's nothing bad. People gossip because they like it, it's their entertainment and an occasion to strengthen their position in the group (just my observation) that's why they gossip. Not only about you or me. They find anyone. Not all if them but many. I know how it feels literally like bullying.  But it's unfortunately unavoidable. Making mistakes is also unavoidable,  everyone makes them, those who strive to present themselves as perfect- too. So I keep repeating it to myself and it somehow helps me but I'm still not fully free of it. 

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