Mistakes and self esteem

Does anyone ever make a mistake and then start questioning their very moral existence as if the small mistake somehow makes them feel like less of a person or not worthy enough? Like how stupid could I be or why didn’t I just do that one thing before hand? I feel this a lot at work when something goes wrong and it makes me feel really detached, uncomfortable, uneasy and I start obsessing over it till it passes. I also start thinking everyone else will think I’m incompetent. I look at some people and I try to imagine or understand how they seem to brush themselves off and not have it hit their ego like a runaway train. I also feel a sense of shame I suppose. Usually sleep helps me as I feel a new day is almost like a reset button mentally.

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  • Yep, I think we all fell out of the guilt tree and some of us hit every branch on the way down! I think peope with ASC are more likely to feel a presumed lack of competance and be more sensitive to mistakes, probably because we've grown up being told we're clumsy, bad or wrong and yet it's never explained why or how we could do things differently to avoid mistakes.

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  • Yep, I think we all fell out of the guilt tree and some of us hit every branch on the way down! I think peope with ASC are more likely to feel a presumed lack of competance and be more sensitive to mistakes, probably because we've grown up being told we're clumsy, bad or wrong and yet it's never explained why or how we could do things differently to avoid mistakes.

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