Mistakes and self esteem

Does anyone ever make a mistake and then start questioning their very moral existence as if the small mistake somehow makes them feel like less of a person or not worthy enough? Like how stupid could I be or why didn’t I just do that one thing before hand? I feel this a lot at work when something goes wrong and it makes me feel really detached, uncomfortable, uneasy and I start obsessing over it till it passes. I also start thinking everyone else will think I’m incompetent. I look at some people and I try to imagine or understand how they seem to brush themselves off and not have it hit their ego like a runaway train. I also feel a sense of shame I suppose. Usually sleep helps me as I feel a new day is almost like a reset button mentally.

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  • I can relate to this, and I usually try my best to take extra steps to prevent things going wrong.

    Other than sleeping like you said, which also works for me, another thing that helps is closure with the situation - knowing that a mistake isn't the end of the world is a big relief, and often times hearing it from someone other than yourself is the most helpful thing.

    You're not alone, all we can do is try to do our best!

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  • I can relate to this, and I usually try my best to take extra steps to prevent things going wrong.

    Other than sleeping like you said, which also works for me, another thing that helps is closure with the situation - knowing that a mistake isn't the end of the world is a big relief, and often times hearing it from someone other than yourself is the most helpful thing.

    You're not alone, all we can do is try to do our best!

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