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I feel like a bad parent

Alien0n3arth

I'm not sure if I'm a bad parent or I'm exaggerating. Tge problem us that I can't stay in our reality for longer than a minute. My daughter plays and my brain wanders. My daughter talks to me and wants me to answer. But I barely register that. My brain is somewhere in a black hole or pulsar, on proxima centauri or terraforming Mars and building a city there, I have dialogues with aliens I explore life on enceladus or travel with the speed of light etc. If I read something about my intense interest, you can speak to me. You can shout at me. It takes me time to register you and answer. It's not malicious. I don't want yo hurt my little one. How to cope?

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  • What if you pretend your daughter is an alien and it is your mission to observe and support her. It is your special interest to gather data on how to be a good parent. You can share this with the aliens in your head when she is asleep. Maybe this will trick your mind.

    Alternatively, perhaps you could manage your thoughts more carefully. Allow yourself some dedicated time each evening to allow your mind to wander on the condition that during the day or can't. If you have time we aside it may help to create a routine and free you up.

    Perhaps you could imagine the aliens are also on a schedule so you have to book a time for a call.

    Perhaps exploration can only be done at certain times, you need to recharge your suitcase or get more air.

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  • What if you pretend your daughter is an alien and it is your mission to observe and support her. It is your special interest to gather data on how to be a good parent. You can share this with the aliens in your head when she is asleep. Maybe this will trick your mind.

    Alternatively, perhaps you could manage your thoughts more carefully. Allow yourself some dedicated time each evening to allow your mind to wander on the condition that during the day or can't. If you have time we aside it may help to create a routine and free you up.

    Perhaps you could imagine the aliens are also on a schedule so you have to book a time for a call.

    Perhaps exploration can only be done at certain times, you need to recharge your suitcase or get more air.

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