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relationships with neurotypicals

Andy1757

hi everyone, new community member here.

I would like some advice from any people in the community who have had some success with this issue.

My wife of 19 years has said she wants to leave me. Citing the usual reasons of me showing little intimacy to her and seldom wanting to do anything social related.

we have been here before, about 10 years ago. Then,as an ASD1, and after much practice, i got really quite good at understanding the needs and expectations of neurotypical females.

and we had a very fulfilling and rewarding relationship.

Only in the last 2-3 years, my efforts reduced, partly complacency, partly a bit of laziness i suppose.

My question to the community, or anyone who has had a successful formulae in these matters?

i really love my wife and will do anything to keep her, so what do people do to constantly remind themselves of the constant need to keep the considerable efforts up, ALWAYS, and not revert back?  

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  • Be aware she may be talking to all her friends, who will be encouraging her, and imagining the great life she will have afterwards. I know this form other normi couples that have divorced .You might want to ask her if this is likely to be real. It does not always turn out like this.

    If she wants to do more social things what is stopping her now? If you split how will it be different?

    Do you suppose she may have someone else? I don't say that to sow doubt in your mind or cause trouble, but he aware. Maybe there's nothing to it 

    Autism makes people honest, truthful and trusting, but not everyone is like this 

    I can't offer much advice as I was not successful.

    I hope you find a solution that works for you.

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  • Be aware she may be talking to all her friends, who will be encouraging her, and imagining the great life she will have afterwards. I know this form other normi couples that have divorced .You might want to ask her if this is likely to be real. It does not always turn out like this.

    If she wants to do more social things what is stopping her now? If you split how will it be different?

    Do you suppose she may have someone else? I don't say that to sow doubt in your mind or cause trouble, but he aware. Maybe there's nothing to it 

    Autism makes people honest, truthful and trusting, but not everyone is like this 

    I can't offer much advice as I was not successful.

    I hope you find a solution that works for you.

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