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Recently discovered ASD has Relationship issues.

james424

Hi all.

Okay, I know I’m someone to go in to lengthy explanations so I’m going to bullet point this to try keep it succinct:

- During counselling 2 yrs ago ASD came up. Never before pointed out, did AQS50 and scored 47. Not officially diagnosed due to waiting assessment, but with that score the therapist said there was little chance of anything else.

- Have hit a rough patch in life and ASD traits seem to be getting worse (I know stress can exacerbate ASD issues).

- My partner, the love of my life, my safe person, said last night during an argument that over the last year/18 months I’ve been getting more abrupt and less aware of being too honest. Can be quite cutting at times. This 12/18 months ties in with the rough patch so makes sense.

- Really scared I’m going to lose her so I absolutely NEED to learn more about what’s broken within me so I can try and do something to fix it or work around it.

With those succinct bullet points in mind, can anyone point me in a good and reputable source of information or point of contact I can speak to in order to understand ASD and how I can be more aware of stuff. The fact I (probably) have it doesn’t bother me - it is what it is - but I’m now scared out of my whits that because of something currently beyond my control I’m inadvertently hurting the person I love.

Thank you all.

James.

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  • Have you considered the possibility that your partner has informed you of something they merely find to be pro tanto bad about you, as a communicator, but still finds the relationship pro toto good and wishes to continue it?

    I'd advise seeking clarity on where your SO stands exactly. It might be the case that you're just suffering from something you baselessly believe to be the case when, in fact, it isn't.

  • in reply to purelambdaphi

    Retrospective look… You could be right.

    i know we don’t communicate as well as we could. I can talk about emotions but struggle to understand them. She understands them with others but struggles to talk about hers. And that’s a challenge we both need to work on.

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  • in reply to purelambdaphi

    Retrospective look… You could be right.

    i know we don’t communicate as well as we could. I can talk about emotions but struggle to understand them. She understands them with others but struggles to talk about hers. And that’s a challenge we both need to work on.

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