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Recently discovered ASD has Relationship issues.

james424

Hi all.

Okay, I know I’m someone to go in to lengthy explanations so I’m going to bullet point this to try keep it succinct:

- During counselling 2 yrs ago ASD came up. Never before pointed out, did AQS50 and scored 47. Not officially diagnosed due to waiting assessment, but with that score the therapist said there was little chance of anything else.

- Have hit a rough patch in life and ASD traits seem to be getting worse (I know stress can exacerbate ASD issues).

- My partner, the love of my life, my safe person, said last night during an argument that over the last year/18 months I’ve been getting more abrupt and less aware of being too honest. Can be quite cutting at times. This 12/18 months ties in with the rough patch so makes sense.

- Really scared I’m going to lose her so I absolutely NEED to learn more about what’s broken within me so I can try and do something to fix it or work around it.

With those succinct bullet points in mind, can anyone point me in a good and reputable source of information or point of contact I can speak to in order to understand ASD and how I can be more aware of stuff. The fact I (probably) have it doesn’t bother me - it is what it is - but I’m now scared out of my whits that because of something currently beyond my control I’m inadvertently hurting the person I love.

Thank you all.

James.

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  • Sorry to hear how things are going for you. 

    I wanted to ask if you have considered that the 'rough patch' could be Autistic Burnout?

    For me, that's what I'm still piecing myself together from after almost two years. I have masked for so very long and tried to 'fit in' so much that I literally just can't any more. It has and did affect relationships, work, and so much more. 

    I don't want to point to any one solution - I don't believe that there is an individual solution that works for everyone. I would however suggest taking a look at autistic burnout, and the many methods suggested for avoiding, minimising or recovering from burnout.

    Perhaps even having that conversation with your partner might be the way forward. I genuinely think sometimes that those who we love need just as much education on Autism as we ourselves do.

    I hope you find something that works for you.

  • in reply to martintheactor

    I wouldn’t just say it’s autistic burn out. That’s certainly in there. But I have just 100% hit my limit and then I’d say that’s exacerbated/compounded the ASD burn out.

    Im going to set aside some time this weekend to read in to it and see what I can do to help recover. I’ve also got some counselling lined up which will hopefully be a positive step.

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  • in reply to martintheactor

    I wouldn’t just say it’s autistic burn out. That’s certainly in there. But I have just 100% hit my limit and then I’d say that’s exacerbated/compounded the ASD burn out.

    Im going to set aside some time this weekend to read in to it and see what I can do to help recover. I’ve also got some counselling lined up which will hopefully be a positive step.

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