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Unwanted longing for companionship

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First, no negative, cynical or put-down comments, please.

For the most part, I am accustomed to my own company and just keeping myself busy to pass the time, but sometimes there is a sort of longing for a significant other, though I have accepted I wouldn't have the right stuff to make it happen (money, own vehicle, job, social connections, etc.) and I ignore and quash those feelings by keeping busy.

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  • On the other hand, society doesn't look kindly on loners and I would consider partnerships of mutual convenience or housemates in order to survive.  It would be strictly practical and forbid any kind of emotional entanglement.

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    As an older silver haired woman, I've become pretty much invisable and I'm loving it, I think there are plenty of single people around and people who don't have herds of friends and acquaintances. I'm sure there must be groups online and magazines about comunal and sustainable living where you could contact people who want the same things as you.

    I think the biggest problem you face is that you see no grey areas, I rarely see black and white, so we are at opposite ends of that spectrum. A lot of people are uncomfortable with my life in the grey areas, they think it show indescision, I don't think it does to me it's about not being judgemental or at least not rushing to judgement about many things. I find there's lots of interesting things living in the grey areas.  What happens when you see a grey area? Do you immediately try and push it to either black or white, does your brain go all biggledy? I'm really interested in this.

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    As an older silver haired woman, I've become pretty much invisable and I'm loving it, I think there are plenty of single people around and people who don't have herds of friends and acquaintances. I'm sure there must be groups online and magazines about comunal and sustainable living where you could contact people who want the same things as you.

    I think the biggest problem you face is that you see no grey areas, I rarely see black and white, so we are at opposite ends of that spectrum. A lot of people are uncomfortable with my life in the grey areas, they think it show indescision, I don't think it does to me it's about not being judgemental or at least not rushing to judgement about many things. I find there's lots of interesting things living in the grey areas.  What happens when you see a grey area? Do you immediately try and push it to either black or white, does your brain go all biggledy? I'm really interested in this.

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