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Kitty_E

I am very tearful today so I looked through the forums here and I don’t resonate with anyone else’s posts which makes me feel worse! I am exceptionally sensitive to sound at the moment and want to shut myself away from everyone and everything IRL but I also have a real problem with spelling and/or grammar mistakes: I won’t use a shop or restaurant if they have notices or menus with mistakes (please don’t think I’m perfect in this regard myself - I will berate myself for days afterwards if I slip up) and this means I can’t always finish reading some of the posts! I can’t maintain friendships because I don’t do small talk and once we have exhausted all topics of conversation (usually this is just moaning about our respective work), what’s the point? So that’s my messed up life, how are you doing today?

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  • Hello there Kitty_E,

    I’m sorry to hear that you are struggling so much. I also have aversions to both sound and grammar, but it sounds as though mine are not nearly as intense as what you experience. Have you considered taking therapy yet? If you are going through Autistic burnout or a depressive episode, then therapy could potentially help you.

  • in reply to profdanger

    First therapy assessment session is tomorrow (I have resisted for years because I don’t believe I can talk to strangers about anything and in particular not about feelings/emotions) but my children have persuaded me. The sound hypersensitivity it affecting my work and home life so I know I have to do something. 

  • in reply to Kitty_E

    I am also starting talk therapy soon for the first time in a long time. I was also averse to it because as someone with social anxiety, talking to anyone at all felt counter intuitive. 

    It is daunting but for me it will be relieving to stop masking and not rely on family and friends for help. Like you I don't have strong friendships so I'm holding a lot in. At least with strangers, there are no stakes, and I don't have to worry about scaring anyone with my emotions (which admittedly get quite turbulent once I get into my feelings). Hopefully it goes well for you

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  • in reply to Kitty_E

    I am also starting talk therapy soon for the first time in a long time. I was also averse to it because as someone with social anxiety, talking to anyone at all felt counter intuitive. 

    It is daunting but for me it will be relieving to stop masking and not rely on family and friends for help. Like you I don't have strong friendships so I'm holding a lot in. At least with strangers, there are no stakes, and I don't have to worry about scaring anyone with my emotions (which admittedly get quite turbulent once I get into my feelings). Hopefully it goes well for you

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